Hey every1 guys, I want ask you how I should act with this girls I’ve dated for 2 months.

I really like her. The girl is really nice, she is a bit cold sometimes, but I enjoy stay with her. She never been emotional or stupid all the time we spent together.

Long story short, I started hanging out with this girl mid june. We saw each other 2-4 times a week. We had a really nice month and half together, and then she had to go back to her place for holidays, all august.

At July we had a talk, before leave each other, and we decided to see and get serious in September after the holydays.

At half august, she messaged me on Facebook. She told me about her start dating another guy from his town (she lives in south Italy, far away from here, 500km+), and that everything “was right like this way” (his words)...”???”
I answered really good, nothing emotional, nothing at all. I did the superior and showed her some good auto-control.

I was grounded anyway, because especially of the way she told me about dating the other guy, message on Facebook was really lame. The day before, we had a chat on the phone together, first time since her departs, and everything was the same as July…
That was the background story.

Days passed by, and now she come back to my town for university, and seems that things with his “new” boyfriend are already ended, I didn’t asked why, we had a little chat on Facebook (she contacted me)... Talked about some normal stuff, and then about the fact that “she is emotional now and confused, and she fells herself alone” (using his words).

I’m not sure about how I should act now, should I try to get her back, do the superior to punish her for the way she treated me, I didn’t saw her real face seems.., or what do you suggest?

Should I use some boyfriend destroyer techniques to crush totally her situation?
And then try to get her back, what do you suggest?

Bitch behavior, leave her or give her another chance?

Help me pls; I don’t really know how to deal with her…


Thanks everyone.

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Focus your total mind on the present.

First of all, sounds like your way too deep in this. You might think its cool to punish her or be bad to her. But it will only create a negative vibe between the two of you and above all it is not an alpha male thing to do... you care too much.

Just relax and be cool about seeing her. Giver her the chance to explain yourself and give yourself the chance to explain to her how things made you feel. But be adult about it. Don't be sulking or whining. Be strong and make statements on how you would like things to be from now on. Make demands.

I sometimes date chicks that flaked on me and I initiate contact after months. Usually she got caught up in some romance or something and usually so did I... don't make a big deal about it and game like its a new round with new chances and possibilities.

Good luck!

Bucc

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

This was serious help man!!! Thanks!

Yeah, i must be sincere, i'm searching for a good relationship, i'm inside the game for that reason, i saw in her a good girl for my purpose. At first i wasn't really inside the relationship, but time after time, i got caught inside, and now i was pretty serious about starting dating her seriously.

I will get a date with her soon, and i'm going to explain her how i want the things going from now on. If she respond badly, no matter, i'm going to search for another one.

"But be adult about it. Don't be sulking or whining. Be strong and make statements on how you would like things to be from now on." I really like this part, i'm going to be much alpha possible!

Anyway what do you mean with "Make demands" exactly?

All the points of your answer are really clear and insanely well wrote, i have really appreciated your help!!!
I'm going to edit this post when i ll have some news about this thing so you can know how everything went.

- Aiyuris

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Focus your total mind on the present.

Well I am glad I could be of help.

I've been in the same situation, and understand this: the better your game is, the better your relationships will be in the end. Because the game allows you to attract that kind of girls that are good for you and explore.

By making demands, I mean taking the lead in the relationship. You are the prize, and you call the shots. If you for example don't feel comfortable that she smokes. Then make sure she is willing to quit in as part of the "relationship deal", if she refuses. Your better off without her.

People make these "deals" every day and they start with the "demands"... usually the party who is the prize in the relationshop (wich should be you) makes the demands.

Good luck again!

greetz

Bucc

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

Edit: Tonight ill see her again. I'm going to try all your advice and clarify with her.

Ill keep you update and tell you how the interaction went.

Thanks again till now. was really helpfull.

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Focus your total mind on the present.

So yesterday i saw her again, the interaction went really good, we walked around the quarter and talked for about 1h and half or so, about a lot of topics and stuff, a lot of laughting and eye contact ( i used to shut up for some seconds and see if she kept the eye contact, and yes she did) was going on, a nice talk.

then i took her back home, as soon as she was getting the keys of her house ot of his bag, i stopped her, and started talking. The topic ofc was about us.

I wanted to know what were his feeling, and what she wanted to do. Then unfortunately the "other guy topic" popped out. She told me that her was still confused and we should go slow on this, and if i wanted to push for it, i wasnt respecting her (...) because now she doenst know what she really wants... she told me that the situation it's complicated... (i wanted to move out of the other guy topic, so i didnt asked anything)...

After a bit of chatting about it, i was pretty frustrated, and tired in general, it was really late, so i've gone direct to the point... Maybe i acted with some "strong" words for that moment, nothing offensive ofc... I told her something like:

"Our time is the most important thing that we have in the world, mine, your, we can't wait for something to happen and see, if we wait, the time is not waiting for our decision, and soon you ll find yourself not young anymore... if you want something you force yourself and get it. There is a lot of attraction between us, i can read it on your eyes (trust me, she was really insanely attracted), and you can't even kiss me now (she didnt wanted to kiss me, she told me, she needs time), i just can't undestand...

Just make your mind clear and choise, when you made your mind clear on what you want, let's meet again, i'm not interested anymore in the words that you typed on facebook in august, it's the past (she wrote that maybe we could be just friends). I'm not gonna be your friend, not now, not ever. There is too much attraction, i woudnt stand for it...

I had a nice evening, think about what i said.

Goodnight, see you soon..."


Then i left her and went in town to some friends.

Have i been too much direct? Should have i been a bit low profile?

anyway, today she called, and we talked a bit on phone, and we arranged another date, tomorrow afternoon (i have plans for dinner and evening). The problem is that my "sweet side" hitted me today when i was on phone with her, and i demostrated low value by apologiasing for the "strong words" that i've used yesterday night, and that i wanted to "rediscuss" it better the next time we see each other...

Tbh i shoudnt have done it, she was totally ok and fine, when she called me today, so why should i apologize?! really bad move in my opinion tbh... what do you think it's the best move for it now...???

how do you think an alpha male whould act now?... answer soon pls


Thank you every1 for your time. Have a nice evening.


- Aiyuris

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Focus your total mind on the present.

You and she were not dating for a long time, and to agree to not see other people at such a young age is not a smart idea in my opinion. If you like her then allow the relationship to reestablish itself and move forward from there. If she does this again, then you know she is not worth your time or effort.

Peace...


Tu e lei non erano fidanzati da molto tempo, e ad accettare di non vedere altre persone in così giovane età non è una buona idea, a mio parere. Se vi piace il suo quindi consentire il rapporto di riprendersi e andare avanti da lì. Se lo fa di nuovo, poi si sa che non vale la pena il vostro tempo o di sforzo.

Pace ...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Posted: Fri Sep 07, 2012 7:56 pm Post subject:

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This is good comfortbuilding. congrats!

Whether you like it or not. YOU brought the other guy up. She didn't. You started talking and overanalyzing a perfectly good night that could probably end up in sex. Don't you see? you are just negotiating, talking at times where there should be action. This way you are giving her second thoughts and making her consious of the other guy!
Don't you see. Your losing here at every turn. You are throwing your heart on the table, and she is just walking away from it. And frankly I wouldnt' blame her. What you said went of the charts on the "needy scale" . Way too needy! You show that you NEED her love, and that is exactly why she won't give it. This stuff only works if you know she is 100% into you... she obviously was not.

And you still not making a demand. You are making statements of how you want thinks to be...
Now that's better, but you have to understand your too much sulking. Sure you can be friends, but your probably going to be too busy for her becuase your too busy seeing and f-ing other girls!
Lower profile? You practically asked her to marry you! You should have played it more cool. Even if nothing had happened, and you wouldnt have gotten into that big discussion about fate and such you would have kept a more cool image on her.
... alpha males do not apologize for their behaviour. A word a word, a man a man! What is there to "rediscuss"...? Why are you wining and dining this woman, while she is "not sure".

Look dude. I know how difficult this is... but once you teach yourself not to be victimized by her "doubts" and "feelings" you feel alot better about yourself. I have left plenty of perfectly good opportunities because women were just too f-ed up with their troubles. In the end you will feel better.
Look you have a date. So keep it. Just go. But make sure you learn something from it. There is something I think could be useful.

there is a chapter in the Game where Mystery is sitting with a girl in a bar and Style and a girl also. Mystery STATES: I am going up to my hotel room and take a bath.

He's looking at the girl and she is kind of looking at him and she interprets that he wants her too come along. She reacts on this and sais she is not coming.

THen Mystery just gets up and leaves and tells her he had a fun night with her. As he is walking out the door. She jumps up and follows him. Knownig that he doesn't give a shit when he doesn't get the girl.

YOU SEE, THATS THE KIND OF BALLS WE ALL NEED TO GROW AND THATS THE KIND OF NON NEEDY MINDSET YOU NEED TO GET THE GIRL.

Here is my advice: go on the date, anb be the cool nice guy you were yesterday. that's fine... but as soon as she brings up that other dude again. Or she is kind putting you through a hoop. I suggest you do sometihing along these lines:

You: (throwing your napking on the table, looking her straight in the eye) Look! This aint' working for me!

her: ... ?? what?

YOU: this! Wining and dining? And for what?! Is this friendship, your just tooling with my feelings and probably the other guys too? I have had enough of this. I really wish you the best!

Then get up. Throw some money on the table for the bill. And leave her there alone in the restaurant. Do not look back and just walk right out of her life.

Then... never contact her again and see if she contacts you. If she does = game on. Is she doesn't = game over.

You don't have to do a dramatic scene in the restaurant per se, but I think you catch my drift. Be prepared to loose it all, and you can win.

Good luck

Bucc.

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

Hey man!

how dit it go?

greetz

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson