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| Whoisthis | PostPosted: Sat Aug 11, 2012 6:16 pm | |
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Posts: 2 | | What i don't understand, and don't get me wrong i have trouble talking to strangers, but why are we so terrified?
I know it goes back into the evolution of our emotions and what not, but in this day and age there is nothing much to be scared of, as long as you don't get into the back of a strangers car! Even that isn't scary unless it's a guy with a van and a mattress in the back! But i'm guessing none of us, or very few, have a van with a mattress in the back.
I was just curious, what makes YOU nervous about talking to women?
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| Tr@veler | PostPosted: Sat Aug 11, 2012 6:20 pm | |
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Location: London | | Yes you are right, it is an almost irrational fear nowadays. And it doesn't go away for most.
The idea of being rejected hurts our ego. There is also the fear of, "What if she has a big bad boyfriend..." etc.
But in the end, logically they don't mean anything, that's why these emotions linked to approaching or talking to strangers can be ignored. Just GO FOR IT.
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| Sombre | PostPosted: Sat Aug 11, 2012 6:57 pm | |
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Location: France | | Short answer : Fear of rejection (and it has nothing to do about physical security).
And I do not think you can avoid it : as humans are social, the way we are perceived by others counts for us. To ignore that, you should be perfectly shelfish and egocentric, and not care about what other think of you. PUA, on the reverse, do care (too much) about what women think of them, so go with it and do not think too much to avoid fear blocking action...
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