Hey guys...


So i had this LTR with that girl for 3 and a half years... it was very special and we really really loved each other but somehow things didn't go so good in the end.
for 2 1/2 years everything was great but i recognized that our relationship started to be too normal without anything special going on. and i realized that i somehow lost my emotions (love, hate, happyness etc.) but i wasnt thinking that it was because of the relationship.

now in 2012 my father died and i had a hard time with my ex gf because we both didn't feel anything anymore. then some weeks after that with my father happened she decided to take the step and break up with me.

i really was okay with it and we had a normal talk about our feelings. we both felt nothing more anymore than friendship. we said we try it without each other for some time and have rare contact. but with the distance incoming, i started to miss her badly and contacted her again. then i asked her to take another try. which was totally afc. she then started to shout at me that i should move on and that she was feeling like it was the right thing to break up.

all this stuff happened 4-5 months ago.

now i'm constantly thinking about her. but not about that i want her back but that i really miss the time with her and that i want something like that again.

yesterday i saw her the first time since like 4 months and i didn't say a word or look her in the eyes. she neither. it was so strange. and i think i should have said hi.

it's just that i don't want her out of my life... but i don't know if i can handle this right now. maybe i fall back and start feeling extremely bad again. i had a really rough time.

what you guys mean? should i text her normally and ask how she is doing? she did that 2 weeks ago and i responded the following day... but she didn't respond me then...


sry for long text. but wanted to give information ^^...

Move on, there's a reason it didn't workout why go back to it. Go game other women.

I know exactly how you feel. I was in ltr for 10 years, 9 of which were terrible. When it ended, I knew I had to make changes within my afc self and I found this forum. Even though I didn't want to see her anymore, and I'd be ok if I never did, I still miss having her here. That feeling, though, of missing her, is your brain lying to you and me. I know logically I don't miss her, we were miserable people.

What I had, and what you have, is a place in your life that has been removed and there's an empty spot waiting to be filled. Don't attempt to put her back in there, put in something else like, working out, bike riding, fixing cars, sailing, strange pussy, cooking, volunteering, etc...
Cheers

I was in a relationship with a girl in high school and my first part of college. I was a total afc at the time and she walked all over me including going to the prom with another guy. After our split I discovered the game and over the last few years have completely evolved to an alphamale type guy who girls want to be with. (I say in a none boasting way) Now that same girl just now sent me a text "Hey Hot Stuff!" Its been a few years and we have both had opportunities for growth and reflection. Breaking up wasn't easy but had we not broke up I would have been content and not had any desire to build and grow as a person. Take this time to make yourself better. Use her as a catalyst for motivation if you like. Start doing lots of value building activities, ex. get into great shape, whiten your teeth, learn a new language, go talk to girls, do affirmations. discover new hobbies, go take dance lessons, read books. try to make yourself better and sharper everyday. Most importantly know that your the shit! That any girl would be lucky to be with you and if she doesn't see it its her loss!! Good luck!

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