I have been on a course for the past year and I met this girl. We got on really well and in our last week of the course she kissed me. I was happy being friends with her but as soon as she made that move on me all these feelings for her became apparent. I stupidly told her about these feelings and nearly destroyed our friendship. Through a lot of hard work I managed to save it, however it isn't the same as it was. The flirting has gone and she used to enjoy phoning me, now she only sends me texts.

The thing is that I am going away with her at the end of this month for a week with 7 other friends from my course. I know she is into me, but she is either playing hard to get or doesn't want commitment. I don't want commitment either so how do i break through this tension barrier and start creating sexual tension between us once again? I have a week guys and by the end of it I want her to be a friend with benefits because my sexual attraction to her is just too much.

I have been ending our text conversations early, trying to make me not seem that interested. Is this a right way to go about it? This is hard work guys and I just really don't know what to do at the moment. Help me please.

If you know she's got high investment in you, you can push things harder (e.g., text with her longer, show some interest etc.). You seem certain she's really into you, if that's truly the case you can play things much cooler without having to analyze every little thing you do. Reward her a bit here and there with positive attention, even compliments (sparingly) if she's behaving favorably.

Its sounds like she is fine with you. and if she kissed you that is great. what my opinion on what is happening between you do is that you are over analyzing everything that is going on. my advice would be to just relax and not worry if your in the friend zone or not because your not. What probably happened when you told her how you felt was that she was worried you would get attached. and for some girls its a wierd thing. if you want to just be able to like be hooking up with her in a week then just build attraction. dont text her back instead call her back. ask her to come over and help you pack for your trip. if she is attracted to you this is a perfect opportunity for you to build sexual tention. you will be having her do all the telling you what to wear to make you look good in her eyes. dont be afraid to take off your shirt in front of her. be playful with her. touch her. you know stuff like that. when she is leaving after packing kiss her. say something like i am gonna kiss you now. make it a statement as if she has no choice but to say yes. go to the store with her and go to the condom section and grab like 2 big boxes and say i think we are gonna need these for this trip. look in to her eyes and say it with a straight face but use the joke method so that you are also asking the question on if she wants you to get them. or you could also go up to the condoms and be like which one do you like best, we got twisted pleasure, or fire and ice, or her sensations i.e. and whatever she says get a different one and say something about how your gonna be good in bed. then also after that statement grab the one she said.

but dear god man stop over analyzing the situation

I totally agree with this guy. Stop over analyzing and be a man. But you can also make her come to you. During that week that you go out don't pay as much attention to her. Like freeze her out a little bit. Talk to other girls, flirt, touch them. Get her jealous a little. If she starts showing signs like always wanting to be around you. Starting to touch you. Then its your time to shine. Put that pack of condoms too work. Also if you and her drink theirs like a double chance that you will end up with her. Why? Because she not afraid to let those feelings out that she really has for you...If she still wants to be friends then thats fine. Your in the friends with benefits zone. If she doesn't give it to you that often. Just complement her about it. Make her horny again. Btw make sure you show her a good night so she can remember it.