So i have been chasing this girl for about 5 months now. Which at first was pretty stupid. I rely got attached but everything seemed just so perfect. We had are ups and downs but i told her i wanted a relationship but she doesn't because she just got out of an rely abusive 2 year relationship. Anyways i told her straight up that i liked her and we should take it to the new level but she kept persisting that we stay friends.

Anyways one of her friends invited me to her party and i ended up hooking up with her best friend Anyways the girl that I have been chasing(Jess) for 5 months got rely mad. She actually kissed one of her best friends their just to try and get me jealous. It was pretty bad. Anyways the next day i took out jess and we had a talk about everything and she finally admitted that she has feelings for me but she wants me to stop waiting and chasing her. She just keep saying that are friendship is rely strong and doesn't want to ruin it. Anyways a few days after that i had a party. Well what do you know we ended hooking up.........by the end of the night we fucked.



Now she texts me saying that this does not change anything. She feels like she's tied down and thinks that i have more feelings for her now and that i'm more attached because we had sex. To tell you the truth i would love a relationship but just having sex would be great. I messaged her telling her that i'm not waiting for her, i'm not chasing her and that we can still have sex and nothing will change. Yet she still believes that she's hurting me even if we have sex. So most likely it was a one time thing. I want to continue the sex though. Will she come to me? How should I play this.

This has changed nothing i still go out every Friday and saturday to hook up with women all the time.

P.S this is my first post so if i did not leave enough info let me know.

You change the frame here.

Tell her she's too hot for you to hang out with her.

You must be willing to walk away here, depending on how much the friendship means to you. Would you be ok with just friends? If yes, then tell her lets be friends and nothing more.

If not then you have to make that clear. But not in a needy way. Make it clear she's too hot, you want to fuck her, and if she says no, YOU ARE PERFECTLY FINE WITHOUT HER. You are ok with walking away from her, after all it's her loss. You have other girls that want you, and you know you will meet girls that want you. And your attitude will
portray that.

Her saying "I don't want to hurt you...I feel like I'm hurting you" this is all bullshit. How the fuck does she know how you feel. You said you're ok with just sex. Yet she still knows you better than you know yourself, saying you will get too attached. No. She is just confused as to what SHE wants.

Stay congruent. You wanna fuck her. It's a compliment. She's sexy. If she says no then her loss. Move on.you have nothing to worry about. You stay uplifted, and she's the one that must want it more, and by saying no she's doing herself a disservice.

it's girl code for "I feel you are asking me for a commitment and I am not ready for it. but I still want you to fuck me."

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

I totally agree with you 100%. The thing is its hard to walk away from her since I work with her almost 3 times a week. If I show her i'm not afraid to lose her its just going to be awkward around work. I would say lets just be friends and leave it at that but i have gone way to far....In what ways could i tell her that she is just too hot to hang out with. Just straight up.

"I’m sorry. You are a nice girl. But I just can’t be around you because I am too fucking horny for you. I’m like a predator. You are not safe around me."

LOL I like that one lmaoo