Ok, so I met a chick online, weird I know... but heres the story... she came out from a recent break up, we became texting friends and sooner or later you know it we were talking on the phones for hours and hours on a daily basis. She was texting me all the time, in the morning in the afternoon, evening, night time. However I was busy going to University and didn't have a car, so I held on meeting her, stupid I know.. As our conversations deepened we really became accustomed to eachother, we told eachother almost everything. However I started to get a little possessive even though I never actually met her, telling her to not go out with her GUY friends, as she had soo many, stupid I know. I also became clingy towards the end, and she started saying stop giving me hearts thats my job... well sooner or later long story short, after 5 months of talking on the phone keeping tab of both of our daily lives and activities, she said I only want to be friends at this point... as I was pushing for a relationship lol when we only talked on the phone LAME i know, slowly slowly she stopped calling me as much...and than I went on my first date with her and god damn she brought a friend... I felt she was looking at me laughing and everything was great, but I didnt even hug her or touch her in any way cus of the friends only BS she started telling me over the phone prior. I started confessing my feelings more and more did it so many times, and it started to annoy her gradually I could tell she even told me... she stopped calling me abruptly, obviously there are other details that are just too much state, but holy that was cruel... just cutting me off suddenly... I started ignoring her also, and she asked to hang out again.. we went to the movies... and nothing happened again date ended and after that it started to end even more... texts became LESS and LESS, phone calling ZERO..

its been like close to 2 months now, we havent talked on the phone, or hung out cus she ALWAYS says no.. whenever I persist her to chill.. she just wont do it... apparentely she thinks i like her, cus i said males and females cant be friends if one likes the other... and ummm it sucks... 5 months was pretty long especially when you came with the mindset you were gonna make her yours.

I still have her BBM lol... we never text anymore CURRENT situation... but she did ask me how i was doing a couple days ago out of the blue.

other details, shes said things like I TRULY DONT SEE YOU THAT WAY IM SORRY FOR YOUR FEEELINGS, I DONT FEEL YOU, im far from interested... like she became a bitch so she wouldn`t lead me on, and make me hate her.. so she wouldnt be the bad guy.. she even said im a bitch cus i want you to stop liking me..

what do you guys think? i like her, and wanna get her back cus my head feels so heavy from regret, and hope.. i mean she really did like me... i know i messed up i dont know where...could be anyhthing looks, she got back with ex, found another guy, looks, etc etc.. but there somethign there? i mean i could sense the excitment in her in our first date, trust me i know... and on the phone she loved talking to me... rebound guy?? maybe... what eevr it is... is it over? i mean... or what can i do? she never chills... says why would you drive to my city (45mins) just to hang out, thats weird...

how should I approach this now? keep her on bbm delelete? ignore? talk casually, persist to chill, give up... keep trying? shes pretty much dry in her responses now.. no extra effort to ask more things, engagement is finished.. now

My question for you is, why is it so difficult for you to understand everything this girl is saying to you? She's telling you to fuck off, so just fuck off and move on. Forget her. Move on. Quit trying. Go game other girls. There are billions more out there.

its difficult to understand because, I can't beleive she said things like your my angel, to why do you even wanna be my friend? like complete 360 turn, i was only ever nice to her... and i like her so i dont wanna accept what she says, i wanna keep trying.. can you help me see this from another light? cus its draining my energy thinking about wanting her back.

basically what pokee said. Move on, she doesnt want you. I was in the exact situation years ago back when i was a AFC.
Although, you could use this to ur advantage. BBM has a profile picture, use it to DHV and be preselected, just put pictures on there of you with lots of various HB's, thats the only way u can do it.

When she gives you attention, do not give much back at all.

Do not keep trying, you'll dig yourself a hole, the only way you can do it is by making her try.

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I do know 1 thing though, bitches they come they go

Sorry what does AFC, DHV, and HB's stand for? give me more advice oh i need it so badly.. cus i still wanna try harder.. maybe just a little bit more?

terms-of-importance-great-for-new-members-vt3077.html - all listed here.

You can not try, it will make things worse. just read up loads of different shit on here, it will help you out mentally.

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I do know 1 thing though, bitches they come they go

You said she just got out of a relationship. And then you became her friend. Sorry to say but she used you. She used you to dump out all of her emotional baggage until she felt better. Then she didn't need you anymore. I know that hurts like hell.
Move on, forget this girl. She's got nothing for you. Learn from your mistakes so this doesn't happen again.
Good luck.

I think i took too long to make a move, can't I just keep trying until I get her to come chill one more time, and than like sit her down talk to her and try for a kiss? lol cus i wanna finish this knowing I DID ALL I could.. you dont understand.. she was very pretty, and she came from amazing family.. i like a girl from a good background... i treated her like i was gonna be with her forever!!! what a mistake..

no, grow some balls and move on.

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You think I didnt think about that, I know its over... I want to move on.. but than you always have those life moments, when I start thinking about the memories again, and how much i started to like her..

ok Lukeyx, tell me this.. i removed her off facebook, deleted her number, but i still have her BBM which is like MSN lol shoulddd I umm delete that too? or keep it.. cus thats like my hope right there.

your young, i can tell. You didnt need to delete anything but whatever. Just ignore her, yeah she's gonna be there, you just gotta get used to it.

Forget she even exists, man up, and go and get some new pussy, else ur going to get no where if you pursue on chasing one HB that doesnt want u

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Really eh, so the cold hard truth, this aint no fantasy where I can try to win her heart? if she doesn't see me like that she never will? I just dont get it, we had amazing conversations.. i thought personality was important too, im starting to think ... basically what happened was she was sad, her soul ate up my souls happiness, and she dumped her sadness into my soul.. so funny.. cus honestly i wish i could move on of course i do.. im like fighting my brain in order to forget her, but this is what happens when you go into something with expectations bigger than the moon.

You are using too much emotion not game right now. Here are some tips that might actually help you. Unlike everyone else i wont just simply say just fucking forget her b/c that's not what you want to hear right now. You want help right? However if you ever want her you have to do the following...

1. Stop trying. Im sure you've noticed how the more you tried the more you told her your feelings the more she got pushed away.... that's the law of relationships. When you get the urge to tell her how much you like or love her just remember to shut the fuck up.

2. Game other girls, sleep with other girls. This will help in 2 ways. It will make you feel better and it will also make her feel jealous when she finds out. Next time you talk to her in any way tell her you are sleeping with a few girls now can cant decided which to pick.

3. Just live your life and forget her and you need to read up on Game and learn A LOT about life. Then maybe you'll meet again one day you'll know how to act and win her.

4. Remember there is almost nothing you can do right now to get her. You've made too many mistakes. That't the honest brutal truth. So just forget her and work on yourself. I promise you'll find someone better if you do OR down the road who knows....

Hi mate
I was in a similar situation, there was a girl that I was friends with. I thought that she was a good friend. Long story short, I had strong feelings towards her, eventually we did managed to hook up (she had come out of a relationship) but shortly afterwards, she said some horrible things about me and then just cut me out of her life. There was no rational reason for her to do this or to say the things that she said.
... At this point I had managed to stumble across the pick-up community and started reading up about what girls. The information about women was 100% accurate down to minute detail (I genuinely thought this women was different!!!! - she wasn't! she was the same as any other woman). I could see all the mistakes that I made (and they are the same mistakes that you have made).
Incidentally - I'm friends with another woman where I've (inadvertently!) done everything right! But I'm not interested in her because she has a kid.
Anyway, I would advise the first thing is that you read about women. There is a lot of information in this community. It would also help you realise that women aren't that special. Start looking for other women (I know this is hard). Don't cut her out of your life (it's very difficult to cut somebody that you love- I know) but do ignore her for some time. It is actually possible that she would miss you and may even re-enter your life again (it did happen to me).