Hello all, Wal0007 here.

Tonight was at a club, running the show with my boys around, we are all having a laugh, they poke innocent fun at me wearing double denim (black jeans, denim blue shirt). No dramas, all in a good laugh. It should be known that I was the AMOG in this situation.

Out of nowhere a drunk friend of sorts comes out and begins in the banter. He joins the double denim joke but begins going too far. Since he was blotto, and is known as a laugh, it got laughs out of all the boys, DLVing me and making me look the ass.
I turned around and froze him out of the group, confronting him not in a serious manner, but in an assertive manner, but he could barely stand straight.

In short, how do I deal with this? I can be and was very assertive after he kept it up, but anything he says is admittedly funny to anyone despite his intoxication.
My first instinct is to confront him strongly and ask that if he has a problem with me, let it hit the airwaves. My second is to ignore it, and my third is to be quite serious and tell him how it is.

What's my move here?

If your with your group of friend, bantering is normal. Can't get butt hurt and cry about it. Instead, roll with it and have fun, banter back. Don't be a baby.

However, they gotta know the right time when to banter and when not to. If you were just a group of guys hanging out, bantering is normal. If you had girls in your group with target, is should be more about DHVing. But however, you still have to banter otherwise, it would just be way too awkward.

My suggestion to you is, let them know, when your with a girl your gaming, they better watch what they say. But when your just a group of guys chilling, have fun. Bantering with guys will only get you good bantering with girls. And trust me on this, girls love to banter.

The better question is, why did this simple, ultimately meaningless exchange of wordplay affect you so deeply?

Your boy,
870

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To go along with what 870 said, why do you give a shit? I would have laughed and likely made fun of him for something later on in the night. That's what guys do. They talk shit to each other, all in good fun, and have a good time with it. Any reaction other than laughter will show that you were emotionally affected by what he said and then you look like a bitch with no self esteem.

You could have told him: " Ohhh, funny you noticed that.. Normally only girls and gay guys notice things like that". You can't go very aggressive on him or say something that will insult him especially if everyone is laughing at his jokes. You will seem insecure and everyone would either tell you you are being a bitch or think that you are being one. That will DHV even more..

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