I'm an introverted person. I don't really enjoy clubbing and stuff like that. I find big social situations very physically and mentally draining. Say if I go out, I'll be really lively and have a good time for 2 hours. But after those 2 hours I start to become really really tired. I get so drained of energy that I become really quiet and my brain sort of shuts off. When I'm in a big group I'm always one of the more quiet people. I tend to do better in smaller groups of 3 as I can dominate a bit more.

AMOGS always tend to be the loudest and most outspoken people. "The life of the party" so to say. They get lots of attention from the girls.

I'm more of a chilled out guy who likes to sit back a bit. I don't really care about being the centre of attention. Infact I prefer if I'm not the centre of attention. I don't find really loud and abnoxious girls attractive. I prefer more cute, nice girls who don't try and be the centre of attention.

Is it possible for introverts to be AMOGS and be popular with girls? Even extroverted girls? Can an introvert guy and an extrovert girl function together?

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The Asian Don(in the future anyways... )

Well, one of the basic characterize of an Alpha male is to be the center of attention

But imo it should be possible to attract all the attention and making you the alpha even tho you arn't loud and outspoken.
I think you just have to be at a location where you know people, and they know you.. Im thinking, try read the topic about "owning the bar"

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- Actionman

instead of focusing on the concept of being an ''alpha male'' with the emphasis on being an extroverted social leader, trying to attract the extroverted yings to that yang

why don't you play to your current strengths, you are an introverted guy, but from what it looks like you are at least making an attempt to lead, so look for those that compliment your style, the quiet shy girls, and focus more on confidence and being sure of what you are doing, sure of what you want, sure even when tested or questioned, don't appologise or back away in uncertainty, remain certain, and just lead in your own way forward, knowing where you want to go

if you want to become more extroverted and act differently around people, then you can do that and change, but if being an extroverted social leader is not you, there are other ways

but generally from what I have seen, it is not opposites that attract, it is those that share similarities that attract generate rapport, goofy extroverted high energy guys, tend to attract goofy extroverted high energy girls, emotionally reactive bad boys that do what ever they want and express how they feel at all time, tend to attract crazy girls who act how they feel and follow their emotions as well, nice guys who can lead, tend to attract nice girls who are submissive, weird guys attract weird girls, etc. etc. no one size fits all attracts everyone, you simply polarize a type based on your personality and what your values are, but one thing is fairly constant when it comes to girls, and that is leading, you must go first into the unknown, she follows, she is extremely unlikely to take risks, it's your responsibility to dictate the rythm of the interaction

so, you can just try to become the big main dog, rolling around whoring out as much status as you possibly can to attract as many women as possible and make yourself the most seen and most valuable, or you can just find worth from within yourself, not put on a big show, slip in under the radar and just meet the girls you are interested in, and escalate on them while believing in yourself, not paying any mind to others but rather doing your own thing and knowing you can do it

you have to just find your own way, but not trying, will result in nothing, that much I can assure you

and it's important for you to realize, women are attracted to status, you don't have to be the ''alpha male'' to get the girl, the alpha male of a group simply has the *most* status in that group, and status gets you interest, interest gains you compliance, if you don't build compliance and escalate, the status is useless anyways

If you're naturally quiet start studying body language and dominant positions, if you aren't giving off a lot of vocal signals then your non-verbal game must be TIGHT - ever heard of the "strong silent type"?

You don't have to speak much but when you do it must have impact, and I don't mean loud and in your face impact. I mean an impact on a subconscious level - if when around friends you were to sit back for a couple of minutes before entering the conversation with your point of view would the group instinctively stop and you'd have their full attention? Or would they drown you out?

Practice using your hands a lot when you do speak, hold them up high to chest level to give a visual impact to your speech. Even if you aren't holding the floor in conversation yourself STAY INVOLVED and don't zone out. Make eye contact with members of the group!

Most importantly, make yourself heard. When you do speak project your voice! I don't mean shout but do speak with authority and assurance. Keep your normal pitch and speak from your chest.

Be confident in "YOU", use the tools you DO have to your advantage. Respect yourself and others will follow suit

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TruthLoveLaugh

You remember me a bit. I feel good around a crowd of people for a while and then need my own time. For this I have found myself a solution.

I simply get bored and drained is a results of boredom. With great people around I feel good and outgoing, with boring and not interesting people I feel bored quickly. You yourself told us that you feel good with a few people. Those few people must be really close to you and interesting personalities, so you find yourself stimulated mentally. Once some jock appears and starts entertaining the whole group - it's fantastic, except in cases he's no fun or is boring as hell, just talks a lot.

You can think that it's your fault that you should take the lead, however if I get bored, I get bored. I say "let's go there" "let's do that" if both of those fail, I quit to some other place where I feel not bored.