Differnet kinds of basic texts say I must be "cocky". How can I be forcedly humorous when I am not? Especialy at the very beginning of my recovery why can't I just do a reliable English tutor routine, a chap who hardly ever goofes around, and parents trust himto be alone with rheir 15 yr old children in the house and who is also responsible for their A marks? I am not saying I do a serious face all the time but allmost...?

Easy amigo,

humor is more attractive than being serious. A chap who hardly ever goofes around sounds as exciting as a spending your life with your never dying granny, telling you tales of the good old days.

You can go serious and highly sexual, that can work. Actually, anything works as long as it is a recipe for thrills and/or fun. Being serious, non sexual... i mean... talking to the painting of Mona Lisa is more exciting.

Woman want somebody who can sweep them off their feet. Is it because they are humorous, sexual, daring, ballsy, rich... dont really matter that much, as long as it aint boring. And the description you give is... boring.

cheers!

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

I know, I should not be this boring, but what if my whole nation is slightly depressed ( here the economic crisis is deeper than in the USA) people are apprehensive with strangers opening them; and generally more reserved...?

well,

if you entire nation is depressed, does that mean that you have to be depressed? If everybody is depressed, would people like to talk to somebody else who is equally depressed or do you think they would welcome somebody who perhaps is a bit different?

Every flaw is something that can be turned into a strength. Some flaws take more effort to turn, but you can. its all depending on how you show it to people.

One other thing that is in your advantage if you should talk to people and they react all depressed: you know why they are depressed, because you are in the same situation. That means that you have something in common that is worth mentioning. it means that this is an opening for some low level connection, empathy and compassion. it is a small one, but hell, its better then none at all! From there on, you can connect deeper. More details can be given on this if you want too.

Besides, who cares what other people might think of you? As long as you are not dong something against local laws or religious believes with great consequences, who cares what other people think?

PUA is not mostly about other people, it is about you and how you change yourself mate.

cheers!

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you