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if you want to have fun with people, then have fun with people, don't wait for them to have fun with you, be more pro-active, life won't just come to you
people work off of their values, and most are needy in general, you are no different, these people want to be around you to obtain what they value from you, in the same way, you want to obtain value from them, basically all you are feeling is that these people are needy and want to take value from you, without giving any in return according to your value system
so, what your solution has been, is stop giving value, because you are not getting anything in return, thus both parties are needy (both just want something for nothing, the frame is all about taking instead of giving)
what is friendship? it's just two people that have rapport together and don't assosiate negative emotions towards each other,
why can't you connect with people? beats me, maybe bad english? get to know people better
why don't people want to hang out with you for fun? maybe they do not value you as a fun person, if you are not fun to be around, why would someone go looking for a fun time from you? if you are always serious and being some ''expert'' then that is how you will frame yourself and that is what you will be treated like
if you stay serious then stop delivering the only value you have to offer at all, they will just detach from you as there is no value at all for them to gain when they assosiate with you, and people all share a fear of loss, so if they only have something to lose and nothing to gain from being around you, naturally they will avoid being around you
give off more value, more fun, more info, more giving, less taking
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