Hey guys.

I have been seeing this girl lately that I know through a friend which we have in common. It all started out with me stumble upon her picture on my a friends Facebook-profile.

I tried to set-up a party where we could meet, but due to exams it wasn't possible. So instead I wrote her a letter on Facebook telling her that I think she looks amazing and that I am very keen on getting in contact with her and maybe at some time hook up for a casual date, as it wasn't possible to meet her at some party.

She was very flattered and told me that she would very much like to text with me, as she things I look like a nice guy. But she wasn't sure whether she was going to go on a date with me yet.

We texted a lot and the chemistry was great. As our exams ended, we decided to meet up which was great.
At our third date, I told her that I would like to kiss her, so we did kiss.
At this point I thought everything went perfectly fine.

But to my surprise I received i text the following day saying that she have been thinking about us, and that she had decided that couldn’t fall in love with me despite the fact that she thought I was a really great guy. The reason why she agreed to kiss was to see if she could have other feelings towards me, than just the friend-feeling. But she couldn't.

I told her that I respected her decision, but that it doesn't change how I feel about her. I told her that I still believe in us, 'cause I was sure that she was the right one for me, and that I over time would show here that I was the right one for her as well.

What do you guys think? Am I going into an already lost battle that would only waste my and her time, or is there still hope if I keep on being persistent?

Just a few pointers.

1. NEVER EVER EVER EVER again ask for a kiss in your life EVER. You loose a ton of value in her eyes. YOU SIMPLY FUCKING escalate and KISS HER. Huge mistake.

2. Your main problem is you lost value by all the things you've done so far. So now you have to do things to gain Value. BY: Not being needy, breaking rapport, Sexually escalating, Everything you do from here on out you should do from the frame that YOU are the prize. Think of this as a balance scale... right now its HEAVLY tipped on her side. you need her to invest more into you then you do in her now or it will tip over and its done. If it hasn't already...
If you need more explanation on what i mean by value you need to search youtube for "PUA value" and look around.

3. Keep things friendly/ flirty... NO MORE talking about relationships. If anything turn it around on her and say you're not looking for a relationship but you value her company. This will tip the scale a bit more in the middle.

Its a fucked up way of thinking about things but you always want the scale to be tipping on your side. You want HER to put in more effort then you do, invest more, sacrifice more etc Whoever's side that scale is lower that person holds the power. And if you hold the power this situation will NEVER happen again. She can be a victoria secret super model it does not matter.

cheers.

this poor guy is now going to be traumatized
I think the "NEVER ask for a kiss" is overrated compared to the general "loss of value".
I believe the general issue was that he conveyed too much interest too early on, probably gave "nice guy" vibes on the three dates, and failed to escalate throughout the time, which is why he ended up having to ask for a kiss instead of going for it.

the right way to handle yourself in the future.
message her on FB, say "hey X, I am going to this place at 5.00pm. It's gonna be so much fun. Join me!"
when she is there, kino, kino kino. don't be a jerk, but you're not a nice guy either. you are a sexual being and you convey this by touch, by eye contact (do the triangle - it's certified as working by my girlfriend ) and by flirting.
when the escalation goes properly, you go for the kiss.

this works.

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You lost. Move on. Read up on stuff and begin to talk to other girls.