So I found a tendency for me as well as other girls(correct me if I'm wrong) is to get fantasies about the guy that we are with. Especially at the beginning of the relationship I think he is the best thing ever and doesn't have flaws. I recognize my major flaw is that after a while I begin to see the flaws and start to get bored with the guy or feel that I want someone else.

I just wanted to share my first recognition of this. Sorry it's from my blog explaining some of my experiences as an AFC so some of the terms you probably don't need to know.
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I have quite the opportunity to practice socializing. This Summer I have returned to my home city to work as an intern in a human resource department of an engineering company. I have spent the last three years going to school in the United States.

My mind set going in:

I recently had a break up with my Long Term Relationship(LTR) and so I was on a rampage. I just wanted to hook up with random guys to prove I could.

This all changed when I met Cloud. I was not expecting to meet Cloud. I instantly wrote him off as just somebody who was out of my league.

I began to think he was not like other guys. He said he could only go after one girl at a time. He was respectful, spontaneous, very caring and I could tell he wanted to be near me.

It was a struggle to kiss him because prior to that we agreed to be hang out buddies for the whole Summer.

I found so much more.

So now I have what PUAs call one I-Tis. This happens when you hold one person special and think no one can replace them.

The solution they say is to sleep with a dozen people and that way you see if they are indeed as special as you think they are.

So Cloud has stopped me in my tracks but I can still practice being social and learn how to present myself in the mean time.
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I am now Cloud's girlfriend.

Yes. I do want to be with him.

It really ruins my wish to be with any guy I want. Except now, Cloud is the only one I want.

Maybe I am making a mistake?

I live in a separate country from him and will return there come September.

He says he is willing to wait and wants to make things work.

I don't want to keep him from finding a girl he is supposed to be with.

He says that I am the one he wants to be with.

Well I'm definitely at a road block.

I wasn't ready for a relationship.

but this is the reason I kissed him in the first place.

Yes it is going to hurt being away from him but it would hurt even more to not be with him at all.

It is seriously in my head that he is not replaceable.

How is that for one I-TIS?
Did I ruin everything by committing?
At least I recognize I got this one I-Tis thing and won't consume me.(maybe)

Hi Kopykat. One-itis is really just an attachment that you have to one person that you may not have slept with yet that keeps you from practicing game. But if you believe he really is the one you want to be with you don't have to practice game anymore. But in the mean time really get to know the guy to see if this is the one you want. If it isn't then break off the relationship and continue to practice. If he is then maybe stop being a pua and just start being a dating coach. Just my opinion.

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Thanks. I think I'm just going to enjoy this relationship but my time in PU has taught me that the principles taught can be applied to more than just getting guys. It can be used for other interactions such as how to convey to people what I want and get over talking to strangers. I guess that is what I will be practicing. Skills like that can be invaluable in a work place or other social settings.