Hey everyone, I'll explain why I think the situation is complicated. It's a an ex-girlfriend thing or as the forum calls it "one-its" but I don't think it's oneits. Anyway, I'll explain in a few.

At the beginning of our relationship I was very confident in myself and she was very into me, but after six month things got a shaky (because I slowly turned into a beta male, I assume) our relationship lasted a year and a few months. I'm 20, shes 19. Young, I know. I'm aware thats theres the possibility that she only wants to be friends with me now and there might be no way of getting her back. I accept this, but I want to know the percentages and the steps I should take if I want there to be at least 5% chance ever. She's the cute type, I'm attracted to her. Shes very insecure. Let me know if I should add more detail on the situation.


So the whole situation started with some beta-behavior for the longest time. She was unsure of the relationship so I wanted her to be happy and also I wanted her to know what she wanted so I told her we should break up. She was sad, and so was I but I wasint worried because at the time I was somewhat confident that I could get her back. So for 2-3 weeks. I still talked to her (HERE IS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE, I KNOW haha) still when I should have given her no contact.

after 2-3 weeks I asked her if she wanted to hang/date a few times but then she sprung the LJBF gift, what a wonderful gift! So I was pretty devastated then and thought and asked friends what I should do. I came to the conclusion that I can't be friends with an ex. So I told her that it was hard for me and I needed space between us. She wasin't happy with this either because I guess she wanted me around.

So I wanted a way to get her back and searched the internet and found matt hustons Ex2 system and train your girlfriend PDF (let me know what you guys think of this guys work). It said no contact, It was then I knew I screwed up big time. That week was a tough week for me emotionally but I got through it. A week later I thought, a forum would be great so I searched and came across this forum. I thought it was great, but I wish I knew about this site sooner.

A community with similar issues and how to get past them was a great find. so 2-3 weeks after no contact with her, i felt better. (we talked twice in between the no contact) I feel like a more confident me, I now know that I am a great guy. ( For her I was an amazing guy, and her family loved me) That any girl would be lucky to have a guy like me, I apologize if this sounds arrogant.

I talk to women at work and they're more receptive to me, when the right time comes I'm going to work on getting a number and whatnot. My point, I'm not letting my ex girlfriend stop me from living. I feel "alpha" and every day that feeling increases the more I read around in this forum and the more I socialize with women. Last week she messaged me, and then we talked on the phone and I told her "hey, I'm gonna go buy some pants next week so you should come with me" She said something like " uhhh okaaay, sure even though its weird how we didint talk for a few week and now you want me to go shopping with you" I said something along the lines of " well I thought the breakup was for the best and wanted to work on our friendship".

So Wednesday that just past I saw her. It was chill, we walked around. I shopped for my pants and made some kino with her. So I thought I should wait until she contacts me. She asked me on fb if she could cut up an old rolling stones t-shirt I gave her (probably to make it more fashionable, whatever) I haven't responded yet. She didint even say hi first haha
Soo guys, I wanna know what you think about this situation. What I should and shouldin't do and so on. Thanks! Let me know if you need more info to analyze the situation.

I didn't read the wall of text. Maybe if you have broken down your big paragraph into several paragraphs of 2 to 3 sentences each, then your thread would have been more readable.

I'll give you a generic advice though.

Let your dick be the guide.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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I edited the wall of text, hope thats good enough. Anyway, I'm sure if I slept with her again or at least kissed her I would have her back somehow.

The problem is the situation is too complicated, so was the relationship. And youre

the one thats making it complicated. Women always complicate tings but if youre

alfa you know hot to make it simple and get what you want, no games.

Life is simple. You want to be with her or you dont and she eather wants that or

doesent. You two just have to find that out.

Theres not much to being alfa. Games and playing disinterested or hard to get

will olny get you further. Do you think an alpha would pretend he doesent want the

girl, or that he only wants to be frineds with her. But the point is alpha is not

needy.

If you want to be alfa all you need to do is be: simple, honest, direct and

economic.

Simple: Life is simple. Why complicate it? Women always look for a man that is

going to difuse there drama and make them calm. Thats alfa, not someone thats

going to argue with them.

Honest: it shows extreme comfidence and its the best afrodiziac. Its more powerfull

for attraction than neg or dhv.

Direct: when youre simple and honest youre direct, it shows Dominance.

Economic: Dont spend too much time. Time is walualbe, eather be with her or

get the next girl. Alfas dont waste there time, they respect it. They dont have time

to play games. Its simple.

Ill just add that all of her shit tests you should handle like this: Ignoring them, or

being humble. Dont be cocky funny.

What is more comfident to you?

Hy, wanna go to the cinnema?
- you just want to go out with me coz you think im hot
No, i already have a gf i just wanted a friend

OR:

Hy, wanna go to the ninnema?
-you just want to go out with me coz you think im hot
Yes.

1. Sarge more girls. If you're sarging 5 girls a day, sarge 15 girls a day.

2. Limit your physical availability but sexually escalate through your text game. Here are some good pointers from Skills, the-skills-secrets-to-text-game-vt138170.html

3. When you see each other physically, give her the eye fuck. If you don't know how to execute this properly, see the technical details here, 2-vt136689.html?start=15

4. Wear a blood red shirt when you two hangout.

5. Go for the f-close. Assume it's a done deal. Do NOT hesitate.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

Firstly, this is not 'complicated', so don't associate such big words with your situation.

Here's the story :

Boy meets Girl. They laugh, hug and have a great time. They're dating.

They decide to break-up. Boy feels (over)confident in his ability to attract her back. Doesn't work out.

Reads a few pdfs, posts and e-books and back-rationalizes that his 'fault' was that he contacted her during a 'freeze-out' period.

Now, he has been getting better and talking to women at work, who he thinks are receptive to him and that he will get their numbers 'someday' and all that jazz.

While the Boy has been talking about the endless opportunities, he still contacts the Girl and asks her to go shopping with him, where he initiates 'kino' on the Girl. And she contacts him on facebook asking him about shredding a Rolling Stones T-shirt.


END OF STORY

You're primary fault is that you've a very inflated opinion about yourself. You need to tone that down to the ground level.

Well, that's a lot of paradoxes all wrapped up in the little quote boxes. If you're not letting her stop you from living, then why are you not out there meeting new women, taking chances with them and asking us about what you can do to get better results with them? Why the whole questions about your 'ex'?

Secondly, you're a self-described 'great guy', then why are you not letting the other women experience that, for themselves? Why wait for "when the right time comes"? That just sounds like an excuse ,for not taking action. There is no confluence of events that suddenly determines a favourable outcome.

And if you really want to move ahead in your life, stop going back to the same well over and over, there's nothing there now. She's not going to 'fall back in love' with you, because the reasons for your break-up are not entirely you, but things she must've felt too that lead her to that decision. And you don't know what those are.

Right now, she's out there, meeting guys, taking chances and asking your opinion about cutting a shirt to making it more 'fashionable'.

Right now, you're posting on a forum about how to get back with her and what you can do to win her back.

She has already put this behind her. And you should too.

There are billions of women on the planet. Go explore. And show them how much of a 'great guy' you are and give them a chance to feel 'lucky' to have a guy like you, as you said.

Good luck.

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Don Draper, thanks for the reality check. PUA Borna and Hellbound, I sorta took your advice (on another chick last night), it worked hahaha. K-closed. Well I'll have to test it a few times to really scientifically prove it!