I want to try and speed up the initial stages here, perhaps entering into a relationship with a girl from work (we both work at a bar, very laid back environment, not extremely professional, neither is boss)
Firstly, a quick rundown of important points:

• I've known her for just over a month now
  From early on I had a suspicion thats she was into me
  Went out one night with her and friends, she got very drunk but was all hands and arms over me and we made out several times.
  Her friend told me at the club that she was into me
  Since then, no sort of escalation or even mention of that night, other than how she shouldn't drink so much again (due to getting thrown out of club, and not remembering me driving her home)
  She seems somewhat withdrawn and less open at work, and in person. When we aren't together she will usually text me, starting a conversation, or 'like' my status on Facebook, typical indications.

some people may think badly towards her being completely smashed and making out with me, but none the less, I like this girl and feel like shes a safe bet - a pretty good example of a good girl, and I'm looking for that, generally, not a fling.

Lately she has been commenting on how she is not herself lately, feeling down etc, always over text. but won't tell me what it is. I was supposed to be going out with her tonight after work, but it was pretty late and she had work early, so she said she'd miss it, at the last second. she then later text me saying she wish she'd gone and that she was wide awake and couldn't sleep.

How can I somehow escalate this situation faster, through use of kino attraction in the work place, and are there any other techniques I could make good use of here?

Thanks for your input (if any) guys, I know new posters can be frustrating to answer, but I am gonna be sticking around
Peace!

hey mate.

this is kinda hard to reply to, because i am not in your situation.

Suppose it was me, i would start flirting, making sentences that could mean something very sensual and later on sexual (later on that means: if she plays along). But if she is not feeling herself lately, i think i would really like to know what is putting her off. I would be more empathic with a tendency to flirting. I wouldnt try C/F or anything that might impose disinterest. You would only confuse her.

I really cant say more, as i cant really experience how she is acting. But i do think she likes you, so showing interest from your side is a good idea, imo.

cheers

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

So for now I guess it would be a better idea to just act as a source of comfort and safety, obviously one good way to climb the ladder, regardless.
Any ideas on how to be this source? x)

You cant force this.

The only thing you can do is letting her know that you like her and that she can talk to you. She will either spit it out or not. If not, just go out with her, make fun and start escalating. its not because she doesnt want to tell you about her problems, that you can't escalate.

cheers.

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you