| Hi guys, really need help here. This is VERY DETAILED and LONG, so that you guys can tell me what was good and what was bad.
I feel I always get stuck at this point. For some reason LMR is something I haven't gotten past yet.
Quick rundown:
Date with a girl I have been gaming for three weeks via text. Met her twice, instantly hit it off. We were pretty much like a "couple" those two times. Holding hands, always touching each other, etc.
Date at the zoo. I meet her there, say I need to get my camera, so we go back to my place 10 minutes by tram. Easy. Walk up the hall steps, make a joke that this is my living room, she plays along. I get her inside, show her around a little, I have a dog, so that’s good. We go into my room, I get my camera. I make NO MOVES on her.
Everything is fine. We then leave and continue the joke of the community stairs being my living room. Sit on them for 5 minutes, and already make out. She was asking for it.
So we go to the zoo, having crossed that barrier of intimacy already. Spend around 3 hours at the zoo, have a good time and whatnot, keep making out and intimate, “couple things”, take funny pictures, everything runs smoothly.
Towards the end at around 5PM I say “I still have to give you that thing from Belgium” (I was in Belgium and brought back chocolate, never specified what). I say, “You wanna chill at mine for a bit?” She says “Yeah, but I have to leave at 6-6.30. Is that a problem?” “No.”
Cool. Enough time. We then find the crocodiles and sea creatures, and she being she, goes in. This place is huge. Fuck. Whatever. Quick tour. It’s now 5.30. We leave. I’m not stressing on the outside, I’m calm. But I know I need to get us out of here and to my place.
Anyway, we do in the end. Get back to mine, have fun on the way there. (BTW she almost never gives me shit and genuinely seems to like me).
We go in, she spots baby pictures, I kino and kiss.
Go into my room, get on the couch, I put on a youtube video. Internet doesn’t work. Whatever, put on Nickelback, we both love that band.
I begin. Kiss. She says “Your heartbeat is fast.” I say, “I know” “Why?” “Too much walking.” “Really? (smiles) Or are you nervous?” “I’m not gonna lie, I’m a little nervous, aren’t you?” “Not really…”
More kissing. She lies down, me on top. I begin to put my hand up her bare back. Aaaand I get stuck, can’t really lift her top out of her pants. Whatever.
She notices and laughs, saying “It’s funny, you’re trying to find how to open my top.” I say, “I know, help me out a little.” She says “No.” with a smile.
I keep going. She says “I don’t do this so quickly,” quite definitively. I say NOTHING and look into her eyes, going 60YOC. It builds tension, and of course she tries to break it by laughing. I keep kissing and dry humping.
She then says wait, and flips us over and she’s now on top.
“When you kiss me, it feels like you want to bite me…I like it slow.”
“Teach me.”
She does. She kisses and dry humps a little, kisses my neck. I grab her ass (she’s wearing jeans).
After a while I flip her over again. “Let me try your kissing.” I do, and turn her on immensely. Slow does it for this girl. I kiss her neck the same way, an even better reaction.
“OK, now I’m getting hot too,” she says, trying to break the tension.
I keep going. Again put my hand up her back, this time lifting her and my shirt, so our bellies are sort of touching.
Again, “I don’t do this this quickly.”
I say, “I know, it’s crazy isn’t it?”
“Crazy?”
“How we know each other for only like 3 days, and like each other so much.”
She laughs, “Maybe like isn’t the right word right now…more sexual.”
“How we turn each other on.”
“Yeah,” she agrees. I continue.
“Damn, with your heart racing, mine is beginning to, too,” she says.
But she keeps holding back. “I really need to go, my father, blabla.”
At this point I’m considering a freezeout, but that would just give her the opportunity to run away. She has NOT given me a definitive NO, and I feel there is no reason to freeze out because I know she wants it. I just look into her eyes.
“Wow, you don’t give up do you?” laughing.
“I’m persistent.”
Anyway, it pretty much ends there. She rolls away, and checks her phone. I check my email. Then I just look at her. I build tension again. And it works for a while. She keeps saying, “Damn…” And moves towards me, then away again.
She gets on her knees about to leave. I can’t let her go just yet. She talks blabla, I nod and stay super calm, get on my knees and grab her, kiss her slowly. She reciprocates. And then I kiss her harder, grab her tighter. It works for a bit, but again, “I really need to go.” And she gets up and it’s over.
After that I stay super calm, polite, maybe there was disappointment in my face, which would be bad (but I was a little pissed as this has dragged on for a while now, 3 weeks of continuous game on this girl through text).
Anyway, she washes her hands, puts on her shoes, I tell her where the subway is, and kiss goodbye, “Get home safe.” Door closes.
I didn’t utilize freeze outs or any of that stuff, I really just used 60 Years of Challenge, not saying much when she LMRs.
A little detail about how she views me; I have been confident and leading, can make her laugh (although not comedian style laugh), but she is impressed with me being so outgoing and talkative. The last time she said that I am one in a million (word for word), that she can hardly find people like me, and that I’m awesome. I don’t tend to take her shit, even though she almost never shit tests me at all, and if she does I can handle it. I have not been needy with her, but I have been more in contact with ther than I normally would, because she does not perceive it as needy. And even though I’m 20 and she’s 24, I seem to be dominant, apart from her having power in sexual consent of course.
I do have to say I was fucking nervous, and I began to sweat towards the end, but I played it off cool. “You make me hot.”
What was good, what was bad, how do I proceed from here, if at all?
Any advice is appreciated.
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