I have a female friend that I have known for a few months and over the past few weeks her and I have been having some pretty intimate chats about sex. She has brought up her sex life to me on a couple different occasions. At first I just ignored her, but it seems like our conversations kept leading back to see. She has told me about how open and free she is about sex and has no problems with nudity etc. Says she likes to be spanked the whole gambit.

Well I eventually had enough and I came onto her pretty strong verbally. She then joked around and called me a " secret creeper ". and now she is avoiding me like crazy I was kinda pissed at this because she kept dangling her sexuality in front of me and then the very second I acted on it she framed it like I was the bad guy.

I find it somewhat insulting when a female mentions sex around me and expects me not to act. That is behavior that I would expect a woman to do around her female friends or a feminine male friend, but I'm a sexual being for fucks sake and I'm not just going to let her bring stuff like this up without me doing something. She is a young girl ( 19) and I don't think she even realizes what she is doing. I may have to see this girl again in social situations. Best way to go from here? She has been avoiding me lately and I'm not sure how to handle this.

she is not sexually confused by any means, its you that is confused. she saw you as a friend she can talk about this subject with because like you mentioned ignored her the first couple of times. you know what that said to her?" Oh wow i mentioned sex and he didnt go ape shit over it" and you let it keep happening so now she accustome to you being that way. When you finally made that move after all these times. Yeah it would creep her out. She did expected you to act, but you didnt. Just mentioning the first time like "its cool and all that you are telling me all the stuff you like to do, but its making me horny as hell, either you stop or we might have to do something about it later". By you not escalating or letting be known ,hence why she called you a "secret creeper"

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If you see her again, just ignore the topic. Don't bring it up. If she brings it up again, just tell her
"Quit bullshitting, I bet you suck in bed."
Make her qualify herself or shut her up.

I read that quote somewhere on these forums but I don't remember who said it. Sorry.

Yeah I see exactly what you are saying. I tried to play it cool the first couple times just so I wouldn't appear to be a spazz. But then I realized that I wasn't getting anywhere by doing that and I had to do something. She was treating me like a gay friend that she confides in while she is out getting railed by other dudes.

I just didn't like the idea of being used as emotional tampon ya know?

yeah, it happens. thats why we gotta learn from it.

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Well I was planning on just playing everything off as a joke and frame it like she is the weirdo for not having a better sense of humor. Honestly I was sort of joking anyway. I wasn't super direct and didn't say something like " I want to have sex with you " . She kept ranting about how she has no problems being naked and posing for naked pics and I said something like " I want to see those pictures to make sure the lighting is acceptable and to make sure they are artistic photographs " . What made it so bad was that I took the joke and ran with it after she told me no. I then said something like " You know i have a camera at home.. " .. Stuff like that.

I have a very twisted sense of humor anyways.