So I'm known as a bit of a joker, and I often use a level of sarcasm that only my friends pick up on, Im currently abroad and working in a seasonal job. It's awesome.

The problem.... When I first met everyone that I am working with, I got the feeling that I could have easily got with many of them in the first week, when I go out out, I get with a fair few girls, and felt the same here.

After 2 weeks I get the feeling that I deject girls in some way. Maybe because when they first meet me I am mysterious in some way and interesting/flirty. And after that they don't get to know me.

I got told by a girl this week who I thought I knew her quite well that she didn't know me that well. Maybe because I am so unpredictable.

I'm not sure why I fall into the state that I am in, all the guys find it hilarious and I crack many jokes, however, I feel as though I need a good lesson from attraction to rapport, anyone have any good suggestions on doing this?

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Try to engage more in lengthy conversations and more meaningful conversations. Single one girl out and take her out for a boat ride/sports event/etc. Just so you can have some isolated one on one time. This is usually the time people will open up and you can ask them their honest opinion about you.

I kind of have the same problem, I have been the big star of many parties, cracking jokes, owning everyboyd with sarcasm.

But let me tell you this: it is the male equivalent of a bithc shield. People will be intimidated and scared to open up or confide in you.

Just try to tune down on your showbizz attitude and get some good one on one action with both the guys and the girls. It will teach you more about them, people in general. And yourself.

GOod luck.

Buccaneer

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

Thanks, "like a bitch shield" explains it pretty well. I think I have the problem of wanting to act more normal puts it into the "lets just be friends zone" that I was so used to 3+ years ago. Maybe it's time to try a different approach in this situation.

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