Hey,

So I haven't had a lot of success with girls in general. Someone suggested I start reading Neil Strauss and Mystery's books. The last few days since I've discovered them I've been reading and watching the seminars and everything that I possibly can.

What I've been thinking about are the times I've done wrong and what I could do differently, and the times that I've done things right but then didn't move on to the next step. I'm at one of those impasses now...And I'm wondering what I need to focus on next, because I've been half successful and half not, and it makes it mildly complicated compared to the regular game.

So there's this beautiful latina girl that led one of my buddies on a few years ago. He led her to break up with her boyfriend, but associated him with the breakup and pretty much moved on completely from the situation (as expected and described in the books perfectly). During the interim, I was a friend but didn't encourage anything either way, though did flirt shamelessly occasionally but she thought I wasn't interested.

Now, a couple years later, we end up getting together to say hi and get lunch and catch up. We end up going to a couple movies, etc., and come to find out that she's having troubles with her boyfriend. I didn't want to be led down the same path, and it pissed me off that she was going out with me while still dating this guy, so I legitimately lost interest.

But I kept chatting with her, and finally she had broken up with the boyfriend, but told me, "I just want to warn you, I'm in rebound mode and I probably won't feel the same way about you after a couple months." To what I think was a good move at this stage, and avoiding going into the friend zone, I said, "What? Who said I was interested?" Then she started talking about the lunches we went on (I never opened a door for her or went to the door to get her), the movies that I paid for, etc. I got pissed again and said, "Am I not allowed to be nice? I buy people food all the time. I go to movies with my buddy on a weekly basis and pay for it. And I'm definitely not interested in dating him." This was all true, and I never lied. And this kept me out of the friend zone forever.

She ended up apologizing, and I frosted her for a few days. She timidly texted me a couple times to re-initiate contact. I have been refraining from flirting for a couple weeks now. And our last conversation she started saying that an off-hand comment she interpreted to be flirting was "awkward". After our previous discussion, I said "You think everything is awkward!" She said a couple things, then said she should leave before she digs herself in a hole again.

So, I think I have her. She's trying to make up for being a bitch and keeps in contact with me. After that last text, I haven't heard from her. But I'm certain I will soon, and when I do, I'm wondering how to handle it?

Any other thoughts and suggestions on what I could be doing better?

Thanks guys!

As a follow up...She just barely responded to a post on Facebook. I put an image of me holding a pair of "Flash" (the superhero) underwear that I got for my birthday. People started posting the superhero underwear they had, making jokes, etc.

She posted the following response:

"Hey, I have-- er. Ehem. "

Hinting about the kind of underwear she has? Seems like she's trying to bait me into asking. What might be a good response if I message her/text her?