ok.. So I'm getting mixed signals from this girl..

We haven't had a day 2, but it could be because of legitimate reasons. (She lives out of town, but she comes up every so often, and when school is back in session she is moving up here)

When she is in town she is always to busy to hang out, but she always says "next time" or "sorry i really wanted to hang out" (this has happened about 3 times now)

Today I got invited to a nintendo themed b-day party. Its at the end of the month so I texted her..

ME: How nerdy would you consider yourself?
HER: Depends. In what way?
ME: Video Games.
HER: I have a PS3?
ME: Well my friend is having a nintendo themed party, its at the end of this month. Nerd it up with me and come dressed up! I'll even let you pick the game characters

HER: What day is it? Lol i don't mind dressing up.

ME: Its the XXX of XXX.. Are you ready for this amazing idea I just had?!?!?! .... Mr and Mrs Pacman. The epicness would be almost too much to handle.. Everyone will envy us

HER: Im sorry about the late reply, i have been working But I love the pac man idea its great!! But I won't be in town that weekend :/



I havent texted her back yet.. But I'm thinking about calling her out and just telling her that I wan a take her on a date when she is back.. I don't know.. I feel kind of afcish right now..

What would u guys do?

To many try's and failures, truthfully I'd move on
First 2 rejections can be for legit reasons, after 3+ rounds of excuses she's wasting your time.

If you're really into this girl and don't have many options to go after instead right now text her "you headin up here this (week, month)?", if she says no move on, if she says yes set up a date, if she flakes on that then move on.
Never straight up ask for a random date, you'll want to, but don't do it

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Sorry for the bad news, but looks like she is not into you. I would just cut communication and move on.

Its over! You blew when you used the term "epicness"

really simple. "that's cool, some other time then. tell ya what, text me when you wanna get together". and then freeze out for at least 2 weeks then reevaluate.

this is my goto text when i get blown off a couple of times by a girl and im at the point where im just not gonna put any further effort in. its perfect because either you get a flake out of your life permanently (most likely result) or she texts you knowing that it will result in hanging out with you (obv the best result).

its very important to not come off as bitter or butthurt or anything. just have the 'ok-no-big-deal-we'll-get-together-some-other-time-then' frame. which is truly how you should feel anyway. and ofc continue to pursue other girls.

I know I might get crap for this but I did not take your advice..

After I invited her to a party, she never replied.. So
Here is what I texted her.

Look... I just want to take you out sometime. Nothing major or anything fancy. You just seem like a cool girl I would like to get to know. I can't promise anything but a good time. If your not interested thats fine with me. No hard feelings

(I know this is totally afc... But I just though "what do I have to lose")

She wrote this

I may be having a party as well, but if its not on the same day I can probably come. Also I don't think one date would hurt to see if we hit it off.. Nothing wrong with trying lol


Total afc approach but i think the fact that i was genuine really helped me out on this.. I have one date to do this guys... Im going to have to make it count

Roles are reversed right now. She's the one qualifying you. Change this. How? Build attraction on the date. Then begin to qualify her if you notice attraction. Then make your moves.