Hello PUA community,
I was dating a HB8 for the last 10 months now and we decided to end the relationship. It ended on a relatively good note. To summarize we both are extremely driven people, I am working on two degree in Bioengineering and nursing she is studying to get into dental school. The last three months required me to become more focused on school to maintain GPA than romancing the GF. I came to realization that finishing both my programs would increase my survival and replication value tenfold than simply dating her and used this as my justification to put more effort into my programs and less in the relationship.

Crashed at her place Sunday and Monday morning she starts wanting to talk about where this relationship is going so I used this as an opportunity to make a clean break . Seeing as she was having doubts I felt it would be a good time, once again capitalizing on the relatively unstable emotions of the XX brain.

How it ended:
I initiated the breakup speaking very calmly I asked if she thought she could continue this type of relationship (i.e. busy) if she got into dental school she said no. I replied then when are done we should end it now. Blah blah….ended it on good terms as I left she asked when I would call her and I responded call me if you need to talk then left out the door as she got teary eyed . Man, I really lucked out because it could have taken hours if I wasnt by that fuckin door.

Anyway I said it would be short but I thought Id receive more insightful feedback if I gave more details to the dynamics of the situation.
Opinions.....
***So this is the issue I am having, I planned a vacation with my now ex 3 weeks ago to go to Colorado for 4 days. By planned I mean the plan tickets, condo resort, and events all are paid for and booked!!! I called both insurance companies for the airline and resort area to cancel and get our money back but its not so easy. The policy requires actually documents from doctor, work, school with valid reason for my cancelation, break ups not insured!!

**** We discussed the possibility of still going and agreed that we should still go. Now I am going on a trip to Colorado with someone I literally just broke up with. My reason for deciding to go was simple, I felt I deserved it, I worked my ass of this last year, getting up early and going to bed late to insure I got high grades. I mean freakin rented ATVs to ride them through part of the Mountain area, I really really want to go. I know I sound like a kid but it looks fun.

What do you guys think? Am I crazy for wanting to have it all? I really like to have fun, I know my ex will try her best to get a reaction from me somehow but I am pretty damm good at being unphased and cool like arthur fonzarelli minus punching the juke box, especially when I am not thinking about school. Any pointers? Wise words? Can I still have fun and avoid the nonsensical gibberish girl talk. Any PUA's in steamboat area?

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Fitzcarraldo,
Rising PUA

If you knew you'd purchased all of that, I've gotta ask.. why the hell did you break up with her BEFORE you went on the trip? Yeah it would've been a bit more difficult but you could still have rationalized the break up with more or less the same reasoning. But in digression, I did much the same thing once. But it was only a two day event that I attended with my ex, and we messed around, and continued to be ex's. I would say don't avoid contact, but try and keep away from the relationship side of things unless you want to have her morph into some kind of clingy creature. But most of all I would say have fun, don't even worry about it. Do what you wanna do on your trip. If feelings resurface, whether from you or from her, then they resurface. You'll regret it if you let worry ruin your trip.

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Fake it until it becomes reality.

Thanks JFB, my thoughts exactly it will be a fun trip. I completely lost my patience with her that morning as I became tired of her a annoying tests, I know she wanted me to say lets work things out...blah blah. But I felt like I did not have time for this nonsense I have lot of important goals to finish. She was surprised at my suggestion but I knew once I said it she'd be to proud to back out and continue to test me hence my quick exit.

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Fitzcarraldo,
Rising PUA