So tonight im having a girl come to my apartment, just me and her. As you can see from the title i've never done this before so i'm pretty inexperienced. I've hooked up with girls before but never one on one at my apartment...or entirely sober for that matter.

Background: Whenever shes come over with her friends to drink (she almost never drinks) she always ends up laying on my lap or extremely touchy. I'm pretty sure shes into me judging my body language and who would agree to come to someones apartment alone if they arent attracted to them?

Whats the best way to handle this situation? I waas just going to be really physical early so my intention is known and find something we can both do together (watch a movie, bake, whatever)

Given her body language, I would guess that she knows what is gonna go down at your apartment. You've just gotta escalate, job done.

I would say watch a movie and escalate during it, it's a classic.

Agreed with the above post... partly.

I wouldn't go with watching a movie - depending on the type of the girl she is of course. If she's more outgoing.... I'd suggest some decent music, and whip up a big meal with her!! I think there's a scene in one of the spiderman films where that new goblin and Kirsten Dunst do it...

I personally tried it once, makes for a good laugh. You don't even need to eat the food! Just chill out after and make your move, my friend!

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Hey mate!

i also agree with Rough Operator and OT. She obviously likes you. And i also think she is excited to see what is going to happen when she comes to your appartement alone.

Like natural says, i wouldnt watch a movie. Although it is a classical, i think it takes the focus away. The meal thing sounds fun actually, but it is not something i would do either. I would really focus myself entirely on her.

So i would offer her something to drink, put on some nice music, but not very loud. Background noise actually. Start talking. I think i wouldnt last more then 15 minutes before i would just look her dead in the eyes and kiss her. Amp it up from there.

This situation doesnt require much hocus pocus in my opinion. You would jus end up hiding your iintentions, waiting for the good moment and before you know it, the evening is passed, she is going home and you regret the fact that you didnt do anything.

So in short: not much hocus pocus, go gently for what you want... Good luck amigo! And dont forget the condoms!

edit: had the name of the other replier wrong

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As the above post says, don't focus more on hocus pocus stuff. You must be clear with what your goal is and it's transparent her. You guys need to do some kind of activities that keeps the focus on each other without getting distracted to anything else. And you'll get the moment. Just don't urge. The entire night is yours if you use it wisely. And don't delay, it may go off in a moment. As this is the first time for you, you may get excited. You should act like a matured man. So keep things cool and once the process starts, you can show your wilderness. Let us know how was your night.

an old friend ended up dropping by unannounced and so i called it off with her and rescheduled a week after. Timing kind of sucked but oh well, im sure it wont be long till it happens again

good job now all you've gotta do is physically escalate and your job will be done.

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oh that's sad, so did you plan again?

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Unless she's really dying for it, you can't just take her straight to the bedroom. You want to have a fun night, and read the situation from there.

I like cooking. Shows you're a man of talent. You can get her tasting things. Listening to good music. Drinking wine. You can even get her involved. If you want, you can keep a more romantic vibe of a master chef (have her set the table, mix some drinks, make a salad) while you converse. Or you can both make dinner together, and the kitchen becomes a sandbox where the two of you play and flirt.

None of that is necessary, BTW. You can skip straight to drinking and conversing. If you need to break up the evening and keep things interesting, you can show her something funny on your computer, or give her the tour. LD is definitely right that sometimes there's enough sexual tension that you can kiss her pretty quick, and go from there, but you have to read the situation.

There's always the movie option, or going for a walk to something fun in the area. (A park is good in this weather.) It depends on how fast or slow you move, and what vibe there is with her. You might want to get more physical during the movie. Or you can bring her home from the park, and just ravage her before she can get her shoes off. There's no singular formula.