Im 21 and im a non talkative introvert. I dont know how to talk to people or chat up them. I tried several times to be more outgoing and talkative but nothing works. I never know what to say.

How can i get girl?

You have two options.

• Option 1. Sarge the deaf and mute. Your DHV will be awesome and your success rate with this option is expected to be high.
  
  Option 2. Study how to mime. Pretend that you're deaf and mute when you approach girls and open them with mimes. Your success rate with this option is expected to be so low compared with actually talking with girls but you might chance upon that exception and eventually get a girl after several attempts.

Hope this helps.

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I have the same problem and I'm just trying to try to be more talkative. However, it is extremly hard for me to do so. Just try to meet as many people as you can and talk to them. For me, I first chose to talk to people whom are close to me like family and colleagues/friends. From there on, I'm trying to meet new colleagues and chat with them and eventually try to make them my friends.
My idea is once I have done that for a while, talking will be much easier and I can really practice talking to girls.

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I do not talk much with parents, family, people from classes. I dont talk much and i often dont know what to say. I tried. I cant become talkative.

I think if you want to change; you must talk to more people, if you do not, learn to enjoy and have fun first, then everything will come naturally.

Hi qet,

Changing yourself is the hardest thing you can do. But it can done. You said you tried several times. Dude, try failing at something a 1000 times. Long before 1000th time you'll succeed. Honestly, no magic pill here. I remember Tony Robins's quote "Becoming successful means closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be". That is it.

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I say take it slow and use baby steps by trying out online dating. There is no pressure because you are simply sending an email to somebody. If they don't reply back, you move onto the next one. Also, it is way easier to spark a conversation with somebody when you have some material to work with already.

I am still not over my fears of approaching women in public. I absolutely hate trying to start a conversation with somebody I don't know out of thin air. But I have done quite well with online dating. Since I get to talk to the woman a bit more in depth before the first date, I can lay ground work with flirting, teasing, and have a natural rapport going in. That way you aren't dealing with any awkward first date BS, and you can just have fun with it..

I never talked much and always had troubles with it. Im okay with that. I dont want to change it at all. How can i get girl without changing it?

Getting girls without talking? You could try rape..

I wont rape anyone.
Yes, how i could get a girl without talking too much?

Leer is definitely right.

I was a bit like that few y ago. I also had to travel by plane almost every month between Uk and Fr. Waiting is really boring especially when there's delay, so i started to talk to ppl around me. And it was just awesome because you know if you look stupid you never gonna see them again anyway. I gained great confidence by doing this. From there instead of random ppl i started to talk to girls waiting for the plane. And now i have no real issue talking to anyone

Like the post above, you have two options here:
1) Change - Learn to be more talkative.
2) No change - Don't learn to be more talkative, stay the same, don't get girls, don't get to meet new people, don't get to know more places and just stay the way you are.

I understand option 2 is most comfortable to you, as it was (and still is) to me. However, there comes a point in life where everyone has to change. You know your weak point, and now you know it, you can change it. There is a reason that you created this topic you know.. I'm suggesting to try to take somewhat more initative, try to get other people to talk. Show interest in people. Just be polite and ask open questions (to your parents maybe): "How are you doing?" "What did you do yesterday, today, this weekend?" or "What are you going to do today, this weekend?". Just make sure you have something to tell about your weekend too. You can prepare these questions (and answers). If you said more then you did the last time, you are already making progress!

You might be an introvert, I have the same problem. I'm currently working on it, but the road is long, I have a lot of brick walls, which I will overcome in time. Try to use the internet to meet new people. Just try to get out of your comfortzone, step-by-step and you'll be fine!

By the way, talking is essential, but girls really like it when you don't talk too much (just listen to them and show interest), it makes them think you care.. Also, they like the mysterious charisma when you don't talk a lot.. that's my experience.

glad to hear it What are you currently doing on a daily basis to get girls into your life?

pitch us a possible strategy that you think might work, let us give you some feedback

Right. I never used to have this problem but somewhere along the line i did.

So. I'm online dating. just sending out messages or interacting with girl with NO expectations. Just seeing what does and doesnt work.

Also i'm now going to shops and not sarging the girls that work there but just talking to them. getting used to the idea of approaching a woman and making conversation.

there are plenty of people who are paid for you to practise on. shop assistants and stuff. take advantage of them. hopefully sooner or later we can take advantage of them in another way...