how do you deal with this one:

Been together with a girl for a few months now, at first all was good, she was putting in lots of effort, sex was good, ...

three months is and the situation is completely different, sexdrive low, bad work situation which is taking its toll on her (mentally and physically), showing very little affection
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I catch some kind of text message conversation between her and an ex-bf. Seems like this guy is sending her perverted messages, she hasnt been responding to those, but still responds when he sends her normal messages.

I dont know if both are related, she's still seeing me a lot (her initiative), but the setting has changed.

how do you deal with her (confrontation/stop seeing her for a while/ or pretend nothing has happened)? And how do i deal with him when i see him (I have a very short fuse when it comes to people intervening in my relationships, but honestly it is possible that she hasnt told him about me either and is enjoying the attention?).

So many silly questions, constantly working my mind. I hate this ...

Her interest level is low, low sex drive and less affection is not caused by her work. You need to be more alpha, more assertive, and be less beta!


As for her ex why do anything? If you speak out against him you will be looked at as more beta. When you see him introduce you self, shake his hand, be nice, and be the alpha, but be on guard! its sounds like she might still have feelings for him?

Has she been responding to his txt's?