hey guys.
ive been having a convosation with my ex recently. well, she's argueing alot. buts its huge messages, so is there desires behind them? ill send some of the convo, but how do i go about dealing with this?


Me:

I know you don't know me, how many times are you gonna tell yourself that? Your consumed with your thoughts so much.. Absolutly petrified of looking like a slut, and all these thoughts are so meaningless. all you need is your bf right? not even a new friendship is worth it because of all the guys you've been through lack the confidence.this is my perspective. So don't start giving me the bs of "I don't know you". Clearly you do still care what other people think. Exterior motives.. Right.. The motives of mankind? Im a guy, and ill use sex jokes if i want to.Sure shit happens to the best of us. Drop the defenses for a second. What's happend to you in the past few months?


Ex:
Lol its just kind of ironic that when you met me I was fucked up and now that I'm secure you mock me for being all these things you just said. Which by the way are not true. You have nothing to go on but written word to judge me. Don't really feel comfortable with someone I don't know making sex jokes tbh when I got my own private life. Well in the last few months before May I suppose I grew up, stopped beig a misleading bitch and started being honest with people. Because when people your age start to die and kill themselves you just realise that you shouldn't waste life lying and making yourself unhappy, people chat so much bull shit to make themselves seem better or to try and manipulate you. So I hate to repeat myself, but just stop acting!

me:

When I met you, you were fucked up.. Really..? Your so strange.. And now your secure it's all right. Call me judgemental, but I help people my age with mental problems like depression and it doesn't take a genius to tell your upset deep down. I could be wrong but whatever. The security you have now is temporary like everything else. I don't know what's happened in your life but your hurt, right? Why do you keep saying I'm acting? Your talking to me and it's all so negative, and I don't know why. Do you want to talk to me properly?

ex:

I used to be but I'm totally not now, I don't stand for bullshit basically; you're two different people and tbh I can't be bothered to deal with them both. Maybe I'm a little harsh but its better than being the total pushover I was

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Your response: you're right. you were a happy little ungrateful fucking bitch. And I could at times be two fucking people but I'm over that now. You think you fucking know me but you dont. And I think I know you but I dont. Lets cut the bullshit and meet up and really fucking work this out for what this is. I like you so much but I fucking hate your guts for who you were. I fucking hated you and liked you but now I'm starting to love the new you who is more genuine with herself. Not many girls can be like that. So now that we know that, when am I seeing you? Or should I never text you again because I opened up...fuck you for doing this to me but i miss you.


Word of caution: use this with care.

Do you really want to "get her"?

Stop talking to her. Cut all contact, no more texts, no more phone calls, no more anything. Be the bigger person, stop creating/responding to drama, it will lead no where. Ignore all attempts at contact.

To be honest, I wish I could do this with my ex. But we share a dog right now, and I have to keep in contact because of that. Trust me, continuing contact will only make you despise the person. My ex tries to create arguments and drama where there is none, and most of the time I just laugh at her. It is pitiful, really.

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