Quick little background. I have this friend, truth be told, she's not all that. She's cute, I guess, but I'm dating much hotter. Anyway, we've had some interesting flirty exchanges over the months from time to time, and I know I got her thinking about it. There's some blocks, like distance and we work for the same company. We are still pals, but a few months ago she got SMASHED! and did something real stupid to me, let's just leave it at that. I always hit on all my female friends, if I'm dating them or not. Well, this disaster blew over and we're talking again, but we don't goof off as much. She's stressed, probably man hating (we both got divorced around the same time, that's our bond), and I'm dating chicks way hotter. I still care about her a lot though. I know she needed space after that whole ordeal, which was her fault, but reality, I really do care about her as a friend and don't care that much if I ever hook up with her or not. I have a feeling she will not age well. And unlike me, she has not done the right things to repair yourself after a divorce.

The reason I think I had a shot was, when she wasn't all bitchy and cranky, she never wanted to hear about the girls I was dating when were supposedly "just friends" and would never want to see pics of my ex-wife. I then at one time had her addmitting what an "interesting summer" it will be (I have a summer house near her) and she when I crossed the line, she even made this comment, "J, you know where we are right now." All women I spoke to about this in greater detail say she most likely had feelings for me, perhaps even unhealthy ones, or one she logically didn't want. Her drunken blow up with me was completely irrational and made her look like an idiot, I didn't do anything. More evidence of feelings, if they were unwanted.

So, we're talking again, I'm dating a smokin' hot red head now, which I kind of subtely alluded to her, not sure if she picked up on it. So, I txt her today how last night was an interesting, wild chill night. (this is true too). I wasn't looking to go out, but got hit on by a woman in every decade 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and I think even some granny in her 60s. So, I'm txting her this story, I do mention that I normally do get hit on a lot by women (which is actually true), and all I wanted to ask her, as a female friend, why? I'm no brad pitt. Before the last "Why?" could come through, I got this response, "Seriously J, that's great, but I have nothing to say about it."

I wrote back it wasn't my intention to upset her, I just wanted an opinion. I'm sure we are both fine, but I thought her response was, well, interesting. I know she thinks I'm a great guy, but I was just expecting, I don't know, something else.

I guess I'm wondering if I may have made her a little jealous.

It's pretty obvious she's into you. The drunken blow up, her not wanting to hear about your ex wife, and especially her not wanting to hear about other girls hitting on you. You'd know best but based on my experience it seems pretty clear.

I mean seriously, can you not see this? or are you just looking to validate what you already suspect?

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The first part of the story, absolutely, the drunken blow-up, obviously, I mean even if I did supposedly "Lie" to her (which I didn't), her response was completely irrational. That whole incident sucked because I was the victim, but felt like the most crap, I felt it changed our relationship, and I'm talking about our friendship, forget about any hook-up potential.

I guess after the whole "incident" things were lot more murkier. The fact she's been stressed at work (or over stressing herself about work, because her personal life sucks)...she's been so moody and no fun. I had some ex-wife drama the other day and was feeling all down, so i was txting her about, I even said, "you know me when I feel like this, I feel everyone thinks I'm terrible, even you, which I know is ludicrous." She wrote back, "I don't think you're terrible, I just needed some space." Which I understood, she embarrassed herself, this was no revelation to me, I let her knew I understood, hell, I needed some space from her.

SHe hasn't responded to the are we still pals? after I said I was looking to upset her, just wanted an opinion, but I'm no sweating that, she deals with a lot more crazy stuff from guys in her job. Although, some girlfriends of mine said that was immature, so, and I know some guys are going to think this is bad, but who really cares, especially if I'm okay with the friend thing. I acknowledged it was immature, that I miss goofing off with her and that I do worry about her when she's super stressed...

But I guess you're right, if we were just "friends" she'd say something like, "that's awesome, work it," or something like that. Hell, if I told this story to the girl I'm dating she'd think it was awesome...anyway...like I said, because of the infamous incident, I've been having a harder time reading our interactions.