| Hey guys, I'm still pretty new to the forum, but I have a scenario that I could use some help with. Im definitely ready to get shit on for this post, but any help would be cool!
Here's a little background:
Pretty new to the game, but always had a way with girls, pretty solid inner game. I got asked out about a month ago by a girl I went on one date with in high school. We just stopped talking for about 3 or 4 years then one day I decided to add her on facebook. About a month later she asked me out. Its been a month since then and we've steadily gotten to the point where we talk pretty much everyday, had sex a few times, and see eachother 3 or 4 times a week. It even started to feel like a bf gf relationship. I am definitely feeling a little one-itis from this girl, but I've approached it with a level head and didn't let it affect me til the other day.
The scenario:
Were at the beach with her friends, ones i had just met, having a great time. We went for little hike in the tide pools and we got flirty with eachother so I tried to land a kiss but she turned her head. This action was normal for me so I was kind of pissed, but didnt show it much. She said she doesnt do that stuff in front of her guy friends, more specifically ones that are still crushing on her (friendzoned!) I told her I wasnt going to act differently, and she responded with "youre not even my boyfriend". I realize I may have reacted quickely when I said "then be my girlfriend, cause you already act like it" I said it casually, like i didnt care what the answer was but I know it was a bit AFC. She agreed that we act like bf and gf, and she liked me A LOT, but that she wasnt ready for a boyfriend, and that she broke it of with her "first true love" a week before our date.
Thats what really caught me off guard, shes been thinkin about this other guy for a month and hasn't hinted at it once. Honestly I feel played, like I was her shoulder to cry on...should I? So I had another little AFC moment and told her I didnt want to invest so much time and energy into something thats going no where. She asked if that meant I wasnt going to hangout with her as much and I just responded with "we'll see". That was the end of that convorsation and we rejoined her friend til I had to leave, but when I did leave she planted a kiss on me in front of all her friends. Freakin weird ehh?
Anyway, Im ready to get blasted for this post, Im over the girl, talking to others, but I would like to know how I could have handled it differently. Its been 2 days since the beach and I havent called or texted her. Before that we had at least talked or texted one another everyday for 2 weeks. Was this a weird prolonged shit test? and how should I approach the situation from here? Would an extended freeze out suffice, or would that look pouty in her eyes? Should I call her back this weekend and set someting up like nothings wrong?
Sorry for the long post, and all the questions, any help would be awesome! Thanks!
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