I have looked through other threads and road about approaching girls in the gym but this I'd kina differant. She goes to my college but is in the year bellow me a few of her mates know me but I've never spoken to her. I'm down the gym a lot and I've always thought she was cute and I want to approach her but she's always with people and I want to try and approach her when she's on her own. I could add her on facebook and maybe try speaking to her that way but I think its better to approach in person, what do you guys think would be the best way of approaching this?

Don't be afraid to be suggestive even if shes around people. Realize those people will eventually have to know if you two are together. And what...are they going to hang you for it?

I personally don't care for the friends knowing im into their friend. I'd just go up and say come on and rep me girl. Rep me! Hey whats up and i'd go direct. if she's not interested, it will be let known right away and well....all u can do is be responsive to her....and well realize some girls cant handle it.

I would love to be able to do that this sounds bad haha but I'm not the most confident person and I think her friends being there would make it harder for me to try and talk to this girl

OK. If you are not feeling congruent or you have that anxiety it happens. I get it dude. Even after 4 years for me I can sometimes get these. I'd say if she's that gorgeous (HB 9) I don't blame you BUT either you can go indirectly....and risk being the friend....or hope she's a girl that doesn't mind making a friend into a lover.

Personally, most guys can't set a nonphysical frame and switch to very physical. If you want to have indirect intent, realize it takes experience to switch indirect to direct...and some guys can waste MONTHS on 1 woman.

I myself can do indirect (although I hate it and it feels creepy to me especially knowing I'm into her and I'm not afraid to let her know right away)...but if you feel you can't do it with direct intent, then best to do indirect and slowly amp it up. Be physical with her as this is a must. Hug her like a friend, playfully do something with her...and hope these become suggestive.

I don't think I'm gonna go for the indirect approach in the long run it will just make it harder for me. Next time I see her in the gym I'm gonna approach her and see how it goes thanks for the help

Just relax, be open with her, and just tell her how you feel and she will start shit testing you. Whatt I don't even know you

Just say whatever the fuck you want as long as its congruent. Don't apologize for being a man and seeing someone and wanting her (of course not needing her). If she can't respect you don't worry. Fact is some women can hate guys for the wrong reasons. Some girls are racist, some are pitch-stupid and only want an extreme asshole, some are very fragile and want the nice guy who becomes an asshole, you can't tell when you go in.

All you can do is put yourself in the situation directly, and lead it. Lead the physicalness. Women never get physical or risk being physical unless the guy does it first.