| you should detach yourself from this situation as you have become overly invested and it is causing you to think from a needy point of view,
she already has gotten the chance to see your personality, she is either interested or dis-interested, you must escalate to make this story come to a close, if you are too worried, or nervous, or caring about what she thinks, you will be unable to move forward through your own actions, when there is no goal to accomplish there will be no outcome, no intent, no result, you want to have a very clear idea of what your intentions are, with a very clear idea of how you intend to reach a desired outcome, but you must de-tach from a need to achieve that outcome, it is not nessicary, you can't depend on reaching the outcome, merely find success in stepping up to the goal, if you can't let go and do this without worrying about if it is right or wrong, then you simply have over invested yourself into a girl, you need to take a step back as neediness will drain your confidence until you are lacking a direction and have no idea what you want or who you are, at that point it becomes an aimless uphill battle, you start to fight a losing battle that was already won to begin with if you just had some clarity of the direction you wanted things to proceed in
it's about the direction of the path, not the destination, and sometimes the person along for the ride is not following the same direction, just cut them lose and keep meeting people along the path, lead them in the direction of the destination
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