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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 8:27 am 
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hi
so in high school there was this girl that i had a crush on. being the extremely shy guy that I was, I never talked to her. we went to college in different states and I never saw her again, but i still thought about her occasionally.
then tonight i saw her at a wedding and i said "hi. is your name __? " she said yes. I said "you don't remember me? We were classmates in high school" she said she didnt remember me. Then I asked "what are you up to?" she said "I am a lawyer" I said "oh, what kind of law do you practice?" she said "real estate" then I lied "my sister also does real estate law" then she said "small world. OK, it was good seeing you. enjoy the party."
I didnt know how to handle this. when she is trying to get rid of you, how do you get her to stay without lowering your value?

Then here is the AFCish thing that i did. a few minutes later i found her sitting somewhere so I went and sat next to her and asked "so how do you like real estate law?" she said "its ok, I like it." I said "you know, that guy in high school, David, he also does real estate" she gave me some one-liner, like "ok" then she starts ignoring me and just talking to her friend and playing with her phone. like her face was completely facing the other way, i was seeing the back of her head, it was ridiculous. I was pissed, didnt know what to do so I kept just looking at them (i know, what kind of an idiot am I?)
then I said "you know, you will never believe this, but just about 2 weeks ago I was thinking about you" she said "randomly" I said "yes" she said "small world" and began ignoring me again.

how do you handle someone who keeps giving you short answers and ignoring you? would negging work? can you tell me what i did wrong?

By the way, this girl is not even that pretty, but for some reason i feel a strong connection with her, I feel like i have known her forever.

update: I just remembered. This girl thinks very highly of herself. Everybody in high school knew this too. she is what i call "overconfident"...


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 8:45 am 
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Haha, oops sorry :roll:

Negging might work if you can do it early on in the open in a funny way to make her laugh, will let her know you are more interesting than just talking about her boring job.

Other than that you lowered your value by returning a couple of times flogging a dead horse so to speak.
If you went and hung out with friends and had a good time she may have noticed and decided that you are fun to be around and been more open to talking to you later on.


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 8:47 am 
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Hmm. I think in this situation walking away might be the best option.

I have been where you are. Your problem is you think you need a woman. I know this because you felt the need to compromise yoursel and lie in order to impress this woman. It is not a woman that you need. You need to discover deep DEEP inner game.

Go and approach a random woman today. I'm going to do it later today too so you won't be alone. Don't worry about the outcome. The outcome is not important today. It is the 'doing' it that is important. In this sense there is no failure.

I'll let you know how I got on.


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 6:04 pm 
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what she did was proof she wasn't worth it and was a bit of a weirdo

even then. to keep it going, you needed to engage her more.

talk about the wedding and how you know the host/people getting married

you talked about something too "outside of the situation".

be more genuine. relate to the situation more.


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