Ok before i start i just want to apologize now for the long post because i want to get as much information on here as i can so someone can hopefully help me. Also I completely understand if you cuss me out and tell me im terrible at game, im looking for criticism here lol so lay it all on me dont be nice and tell me what i did wrong cause with this girl i just put down all my game that ive learned and tried to go with my heart so beat the shit out of this post! lol

alright so i was dating this girl for a long time and i loved her we were literally perfect for each other both of us in the military and thats tough to find sometimes. she shipping off to basic training this june, so because she was leaving i made her this scrapbook full of pictures and notes and cute little things. this scrapbook was extremely hard for me to do because im not creative and i dont do those type of things EVER so for me to make this for her meant a lot to me. we will get back to the scrapbook later but first lemme tell you what went wrong. so about ten days before shes about to ship off to basic training she breaks up with me. she told me that she needed space, that she wanted to do this on her own, and that she didnt want to have to worry about writing me or calling me during boot camp. so i was disapointed and didnt want her to break up with me of course but i didnt want to make her life tougher than it already is because obviously shes going through a rough phase right now before going to boot camp. shes extremely nervous, anxious, and intimidated so i told her i wouldnt bother her. a few days passed after me not contacting her at all and i decide to shoot her a quick text so i basically say this

ME: hey i just wanna let you know im proud of you bla bla bla but you need to promise me that you will go on one date with me when you come back just one thats all i need, ill be waiting for you can you promise me that?

HB: Stop, dont wait for me. but yes if i want to go on a date with you when i get back i will.

so the way i see it she doesnt wanna go on a date with me when i get back because she wouldnt promise me. we keep bickering back and forth that night and basically it sums up to "sorry if i hurt your feelings" "when i get back we can see what happens"

From there i tell her that im not giving up on her and that i know she felt the same way i did and theres no way in hell im letting that go. she says "Seriously stop. Like ur being to much. thats to much for me im gonna stop responding now."

Im not exactly sure what that means so i need some help with that.

Now remember that scrapbook i made for her? i havent given it to her yet and i wanted to give it to her cause i worked so hard on it. So i text her a few days later and say

ME: hey ive been making this thing for you for quite a while now can i give it to you? you dont have to come outside or even talk to me i just wanna drop it off at your door and drive away can i do that?

HB: No seriously you need to give me my space

I dont text her back. A few days later i give my final effort! i text her and say

ME: Do you want to see me before you go?

HB: I think that will just make things harder so i dont think thats a good idea sorry.

we keep fighting and her final message is this

HB: I told you why i broke up with you i dont want a relationship and im not doing this for you.im doing this for me because its not what i want right now.so sorry if i hurt you but this is what i want and need. so please stop ive made myself clear multiple times and im done explaining it. Now its your choice how u react you can either be sad and depressed or move on and have a good summer like i hope you will. this is my last message.

So guys i dont know what to do. is she still worth it? do i give her a chance? do i still even have a chance when she comes back? me and this girl were talking about marrying each other and having kids and then all the sudden she flips a switch and doesnt care about me anymore. she was always afraid I was gonna be the one to break it off because ive been a bit of a player in the past but i really fell for this one and stopped my PUA ways. please help and thanks for reading if you still are here haha

Cliff notes?

haha yea sorry just read after the first two paragraphs and try to read the conversations we had ill bold them in a second

She's telling you she needs space and you're texting her. Leave it, you're being to needy. What do you mean, 'should i give her a chance?' she finished you, not the other way round. If you want any chance with this girl, don't contact her, show her you can live happily without her, and who knows, you might just get a text one day. But seriously, drop the neediness, women hate it.

Good luck

WTF???

Your trying to control this girl dude

dont control. Why should she "promise" to you that you'll go on a date?

Also, why are you going on a date in the first place? Thats AFC. Go hang out on do something cool - dont position it as a date - too try hard

chill out, dont control. This is why she is saying "she needs space". You are trying to control her and put her in a corner by forcing her

let her do her own thing.

It sounds like a classic oneitis here. Open your options and be less needy too

Thanks guys i know i have major oneitis right now and now that you say that im trying to control her, i can see how you think that thanks for the input!