Hi all,

Lets not beat round the bush: I suck at pulling women. A lot of us do, otherwise this forum wouldnt be so popular! (':lol:')
Most numbers i ever got is out pure leprechaun luck, finding that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

I want to get better.

I guess i could start by reading all of this forum (which after 3 days ive worked through a lot already!)

However, you may read it and somehow remember it all.
But Applying it is where it counts.

If all you are all willing, this is where you guys come in.

Hopefully this post will eventually become a sticky, and a future guide for all newbies.

Kudos to Slywalker, he gave me a lot of inspiration for this with his 10 day guide.
Think of this as a guide to applying that guide.

Now to the point:

Day one:
This weekend, im going out with a load of mates to the City of Cardiff, a great night out. I know night clubs are not the greatest or easiest places to pull women, and i dont really expect to come back with a bird at the end of it (awesome if i do)

What would your guys recommendations be in terms of what i should start and practice this weekend? for example: Practice approaching, or confidence, or chat up lines etc..

P.S! easy on the analogies! - most of it is Gibberish to one so newbie and British!

Best Regards to all,

Boyo

Welcome.

First things first - how's your approach anxiety (AA)? Do you get sweaty palms when thinking about randomly approaching a lady?

If so, your step isn't nightgame to get over AA. Day game is the place for this. Find a busy place and start meeting people. Ask directions, engage anyone and everyone. Simply say 'Hello', and when that's not an issue, Say 'Hello' and make an observation about the weather, the news, the social climate... and see how you do there.

You're building a platform of confidence to ensure you understand she's JUST a woman, and she truly wants to be fucked just like you do. Socail barriers being what they are, and HUNDREDS of idiot guys have been kind enough to allow a small sub-set of men to go around a woman's intrinsic defenses to the point it's become an artistic science.

If you don't have AA, you're ahead of the curve. Even now, go to clubs and try to open sets. Even if you get rejected, you're gaining experience (which is VITAL) and potential stories to use later on - you're gaining experience. Start trying to start conversations now. Stack your own stories, ensure you can transition from story to story seamlessly - and sarge all the time! Never worry about rejection. It happens, and it's simply one less way to use the next time.

Hope that's a step forward...

Cheers,

RR

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Thanks for the reply RR,

so to summarise: get accustomed to AA, have it become a second nature. Familiarise yourself with the feeling and embrace it/ignore it. - That i can do and im not bad at the approach part, im good at diving in the deep end

My weakness by far at the moment: is knowing what to say, how to say it and without doubt/hesitation and confidence, Im just gonna read up on some opening lines etc and will have questions in a bit!

Edit: ok so ive done some reading on openers: on what situations are Direct openers good for? days and nights? the coffee shop or just a bar?

same again for Indirect openers - what things do you look for to know when to use.

lastly, what are some reliable/easy to remember ones to try for day 1?


Cheers,

Boyo