It's near finals week at my college and my ex-girlfriend dumped me last week. I've since been cold towards her despite the fact that she keep texting me. Two days ago, she called twice and I didn't pick up. She later texted me saying she wants to fix things.

I played it off cool saying we should get lunch the next day. She replied saying that she is busy the whole day and we should talk another day. So in my heard, I'm thinking this evil bitch wants to talk and fix things but can't even put aside time for me?

Am I overreacting since finals is coming up and she has a test this week or am I justified in thinking she doesn't really care about me?

Hey. Great job on not appearing needy but i think the way you show it, is not congruent in your intentions (i see that you still want her and just start to overthink things). You need to set your primary goal. Is it your finals? Or is it your lovelife? Once you have set this goal, set up a way to get it. You need to have FOCUS AND WILL POWER in all that you do. Think of it as a flashlight, the direction where you put the flashlight is your FOCUS and the brightness depends on your WILL POWER while the place you set it, is your GOAL. see the point?

Advice when she tells you that she wants to fix things over sms. Remember: this is not the actual things you need to say but you should get the idea.

HB: hey i wanna fix things with you.
You: what if i don't want to? (notneedy) im gonna be busy this week so ill find a date when im available, make sure that you are available too because im not having another time ( make yourself the prize)

get the point? sorry if you don't understand my advice well, english isn't my native language

Eyyt has some good points there.

Decide whether you actually want to get together with her first. And think really carefully about that. How old are you? How much experience do you have with other girls? Are you at all insecure and would being single and dating other girls fix that?

If you're not sure whether it would be best to get back together or not, the answer is probably no for now.

In the meantime, I would do what Eyyt says, minus the "what if I don't want to" part. The phrasing of that sounds unsure and grudge-holding (Might be your English, man.) and I think you can leave it out altogether. But definitely tell her you're busy most of the week and give her a choice between maybe two times

"I'm busy with the finals and some other things this week, but I can do Tuesday or Friday around lunchtime if you want to talk."

I'd leave it at that for now. If she says she "might" be there, decline. If she stands you up, tell her you're not into games start dating other people for the next few months.

If you do that, it sends out all the right signals without explicitly having to say any of it outright (which is usually a sign of insecurity, like someone saying "I don't care what other people think of me" meaning that they care a ton).

Good luck man.

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She is just trying to get a response out of you as of right now.. You gave to give her more time off than you did. I went over this with motownsoul not too long ago in a lengthy thread. I'll bump it so you can check it out.

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