Hi all. I'm a 24 year old Male from the UK. I'm a student, I body-build in the gym daily, follow fashion, go out as often as I can.

However I'm severely deaf. Before anyone asks, no I can't get an operation...I was born deaf and I wear hearing aids but they are no good. I lip-read very well though and can speak well but with a very deep accent which can be hard to understand to strangers. I don't sign and I don't need to.

As a result, I'm terrible with women. Only had one girlfriend 7 years ago. Since then, it's just been a big mess, rejections, dates that don't go anywhere, or women just lose their interest when they realise how deaf I am.

I have no problem in approaching women or gaining inner confidence, I've studied so many PUA material but women either can't seem to understand me due to my heavy accent or they notice I'm deaf and not have the time to speak to me a bit slowly. I've been told it sounds like a German speaking English but I was born in the UK and lived here all my life. I've had years of speech therapy and despite complaining to my doctor... it's as good as it can get. I can hear sound, but it's just not clear due to my hearing loss.

Speaking with groups is impossible because I have to lipread one person at a time.

Usual scenario:

I approach a woman, she can't understand me, she laughs then walks off.

I approach a woman: She asks me why I sound like this, I explain, she looks puzzled then walks off.

I approach a woman, she talks to me, I can't hear her so I ask her to say it again, she looks bored then walks off.

I approach a woman, she looks scared and goes on the defensive, probably realising I'm deaf, unable to know what to say...walks off.

They just DO NOT have the time or patience to speak a bit slower with me :/ That's all they need to do, just speak slightly slower and clearer and I can understand them perfect.

It's making me very depressed and I have thought about suicide many times.

All of my mates have got girlfriends and many are getting engaged etc. I'd just like to be able have that option of having a girlfriend, have sex or even a date that can get somewhere. A right to have what any other able male has. I'm good looking and I just hate the fact that my disability is bringing me down.

Why are you only limiting yourself to only night game? With your handicap, this might be hard to pull off. Most these girls are drinking and have ADD while there out. Even I do while I am out. There is just so much stuff that's going on.

Things you can do improve your success.

-Do not be bother by your handicap. Work on your inner game. There are little your doing that are giving this off. Women are very good at picking up these sub communication. The fact your thinking of communicating suicide is not a good sign. Work on your inner game, is not gonna be an easy fix. Couplre years minimum. With no handicap, it took me over a year to get success. And this was because my inner game was so screwed.

-Try out day game. Lets distractions, slower pace, and less competition since these girls are not being approach. Your only obstacle is a lot of these girls are on there way to somewhere. Still, you have to maintain solid inner game and not fear rejections.

-For night, try lounges. Where is a more chill environment.

-Try online dating. I met some cute girls on there.

-Social circle. You say your friends are married right? I am sure there wives have girlfriends that are single.

Most important thing, fix your inner game. Is a rough fix, but nothing you will learn about pick up will work until your inner game is fix.

And I have to add.

Stop trying to get a girlfriend! Work on setting your mind to abundance mentality. It will make a huge difference without any routine or tactics in your game. It just a vibe you give off.

You're doing this wrong. PUA is simply not for you. I don't mean to be rude, but it's made for people who can communicate normally.

You're not doomed to be a virgin. But you are never going to do well in random settings. You need to get girls in a place where they can get to know you better. You have a serious disadvantage in random pickups. So instead, focus on small group settings. Book clubs, church(they usually have home study groups in people's houses), classes in a community college, etc.

I'm also thinking you may consider older women(I don't mean *really old*). Maybe like 30. Teenagers/ early 20s are less mature and very, very vain about things.

I seriously think, if he fixes his inner game, he can have some success. But I have to agree with you about joining groups. But yeah, he is gonna have it harder them most guys.

I'm not a virgin. I just don't have a good sex life so to speak. I just don't see why my hearing loss has to prevent me from doing pua. I have the looks, personality and I can speak. It's just incredibly hard. There's no groups around here. All groups around here are for pensioners. It's sad really cause I live in a city well known for parties and a large amount of bars. How does inner game work if they can't understand what I'm saying. I just want the ability to attract an attractive girl like all of my hearing friends can.

I have a hard time imagining there are no groups of any sort in your entire city.

There may be some way to do this. But almost everyone here has no personal experience in your field. I don't think I can help on how to be a master deaf PUA. Is it possible? It may be. But I think you'll have to blaze that trail yourself. No one here is going to understand your difficulties better than you. And since we have no experience to offer you, it makes our ability to offer advise quite limited.

I almost never, ever suggest bootcamps, but you may be a candidate for that. Having a number of experienced PUAs with you to see what happens in real time and help you adjust may be able to work wonders. I have no one to suggest in the UK, but I'm sure there are some quality ones if you look around hard. And I do mean hard. 9/10 of people offering bootcamps are AFC marketers. Find someone with actual people how can vouch for him and his success at improving them.

Downside is a bootcamp tends to run three thousand dollars Stateside(the good ones, anyway).

Are you out of you're fucking mind!? Seriously dude, how many times have you been laid in you're life?

I'm sorry bro, ignore that advice, you can very get great at this if you give it you're all. I know some big fat ass mother fuckers who get laid more then the most well built men I know. How often are you out there trying? If you honestly get out the house and approach 10 women a day for 6 months, you'll excel at this and do pretty well dispite what you may think. I have a buddy with an electronic leg that gets laid a couple times a month, and he wears shorts. Anything you really want in life will be you'res.. Maybe take a speech class and develop you're accent and work on you're tonality but don't you dare let anyone tell you that meeting women isn't for you. Anyone that isn't mentally retarded has what it takes to get out there and excel with women. We were created to mate with women, everyone has the ability. Just work hard and hone you're skills and you can do this.

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Also man i have had a number of closes in which I didn't have to say one word! Go on wayoftheplayer(dot)com and you can check out my journal. 80% of what you're saying isn't coming out of you're mouth.

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