Hey guys, I wasn't sure where to post this; I was going to put it in closing and Day 2 bcos it is a potential Day 2 scenario which has me asking; but it is a general question, which I would like to be able to apply universally.

I'm just wondering how to manage a woman's expectations, with regard to a relationship. It might possibly be my conditioning that makes me think that, in general, if a woman has sex with you, she may be looking for more than just a one night stand.

I know this isn't the case with every woman, indeed, the last two girls I was with were perfectly happy with a one night stand; one because she was living in another country, and I'm not sure about the other one. But, with the girl I was with prior to that, I got the impression she was probably looking for something more.

Now, I'm probably going to be meeting a girl for a day two, quite possibly tomorrow, and I'm wondering how I can let her know that I'm not looking for a serious, or even committed, relationship, without, of course, saying it in such a way that will spoil things.

When a girl is very attracted to you, she will raise up the relationship issue herself in very subtle ways. The most obvious of course is her asking if you have a girlfriend or hinting at something about your girlfriend or wife. The "Why are you still single?" interview question also casually pops up.

I've lost many opportunities for the f-close by always defensively pulling my expectation management techniques to manage my risks. But at least, I haven't had any stalking or crazy chick problems for the last two years.

When a girl subtly pulls the relationship issue, here are some...

Expectation Management Techniques.

• 1. Canned Response. I'm very loyal and committed to my friends/family/career/goals. Right now, I live for the day/moment outside of my friends/family/career/goals. All I can say is that I'm happy when I'm with you. If you're the right one, it will happen eventually. Maybe my priorities will change when that happens. [Paraphrase monologue as needed.]
  
  2. Several Toothbrushes in Your Place. After a f-close in your place, get your stock of toothbrushes and offer it to the girl. Let her choose a color that she likes. Also open up your hidden bag or container of girlie stuff like face powders, lotions, disposable panties and so on. You don't have to say a thing. But when she probes or asks why you keep those things, just say, "I have a few friends who sleep over every once in a while."
  
  3. Canned Response. If she pulls a "Do you love me?" or "I love you" stunt, just say something like, "Love is a very serious matter to me. I think it requires a very great responsibility on a man's part not to hurt a woman's feelings by doing or not doing certain things that offends a woman. For me, love is about commitment and loyalty not to break a woman's heart. You are special to me. I'm happy every time you're around. You'll know it when it comes." [Paraphrase monologue as needed.]

In the canned responses, always mention the words 'commitment' and 'loyalty' so she won't think that you're a commitment phobe. You aren't. You're loyal to your friends, family and dog. You're committed to your job or school.

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