So I had a reasonably good first date last night. Good rapport etc. Although no k or f closing.

Her new shoes hurt her last night so i figured id send a text saying i hope her feet are better. But how long should i wait to send it? is today good? or should i wait longer?

I think with good rapport, you can text her immediately. But come up with a time constraint because you are a busy man. You can text her like this : "hey, so how's your feet then?" wait for her reply then (whatever her answer is) "Oh, i see. Just stopped by to know if you're okay. I would want to chit chat but i need to do something. Bye [her name] " you can change the words. hope this helps )

Ok. I'll see how that goes. Thanks...

by the way i notice there is no question in the response. is this to make her do the work and not come across as needy? i'm not all that bothered whatever the outcome so that suits me.

I disagree.

I never use the phrase "I just stopped by...". It's AFC. It's as if you needed some excuse to contact her.

I don't say "I want to chit chat but I need to do something"... I don't chit chat. I text to fuck. If I don't think I'll fuck her, I stop texting. And if I have something to do, it's none of her business unless I make it her business. Saying "I need to do something" to a smart woman will have her immediately think you don't have shit to do - but you're just saying that...

Find your goal for the text. If it's to sexually escalate, then go for it and be bold - always give yourself an out in the conversation and ensure you're using time differentials, never negative text - always be the escape she wants.

If your goal is texting for the sake of texting... that's YOUR goal. For me, that's mental masturbation - nothing more.

RR

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i would always text the day after and saying something like "hey hows your feet? xx" sounds good.

could you give me an example of 'time differentials' and 'negative texts'...

Time differentials: Always add more time to the response than she's used. If she responds to your text in 5 minutes, you wait 10 to respond back. If she waits 15 minutes, you wait 25. If she waits 1/2 hour, you wait 45 minutes. And so forth - always put her in the mindset that she's waiting on your text, not vice versa. Never respond instantaneously.

Negativity in a text is not me. Never break a date over text, never argue over text and never bring up a negative situation via text. If I have to go negative, I'll call or see them in person whenever possible. But - this is negative as in the situation as a whole, not referring to teasing. Without fail, I'll 'neg' a chick via text in fun.

Like I said, I text to fuck - so I want ALL texting to be kept playful, random, cocky, arrogant (to some level) and POSITIVE. I want her to WANT my text. I'm random as hell and they have NO idea what I'll send/text next... so I keep their excitement. They look forward to my texting - and I don't go negative so they'll always subliminally hear that text tone and when they see it's from me, they're happy. Why? I'm different. I'm not negative, it's always positive when they see my name - It's a Pavlovian theory put to practice.

RR

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good advice. thanks. she replied:

Hey thanks for asking, well I have two big blisters one in each one. Haha anyway wil cure with time I guess. x

how should i reply?

Partially agree. It's always good to give a same day text and exchange an inside joke or some sort of banter. It's good rapport. But keep it short. And don't say "Just stopped by to know if you're okay. I would want to chit chat but i need to do something. Bye".

Let's say for example, she fell over on the date. After the date you could send her a quick text and say something C&F or banter about it. But as I said, it should only be 1 text or 2 max. And the text has to be funny/entertaining and not "how are you".

after reading rodeo's response, i see that he made a good point. My mistake is that I gave you an AFC example in text game but the main point of my advice is to give you a frame that you are the prize and you are not needy.

Well, quick question: Why do you need to?

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good point. i did anyway. i said: 'yes time is a good healer. that or long, sensuous foot rubs. have a gread day'.

ok. so you're saying i dont need to and that they should chase after me? ok. lesson learnt.

Not what I'm saying at all. If I want to pursue a woman, I will. If I want her to pursue me, I'll try to orchestrate that.

What I'm saying is define your goals with texting. Do you text to occupy time? Do you text to escalate and fuck her?

Then if you send a text - ensure it meets your goal, or ask yourself why?

I absolutely don't go by the "they need to chase me" deal. I fuck, and fuck often. I don't go by any theory other than this... when I see a woman I'll cold read her and ask myself "How do I fuck her?" and as I'm walking up to her I'm already answering that question in my brain... After that, if/we we text - it's to ramp it sexually.

RR

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ok. i texted her because she's the only woman i have a so-so response from and thought about trying to see her again and see if it leads to hot sex or not. but to be honest i'm not sure in my head what i want.