Just wandered if any of you have experienced this.. whereby you have been dating a girl or 'seeing a girl'.. you break it off and then when you come back - they are interested, but not so much.

Does the whole scenario of on-off-on automatically weaken a man's position?

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I think it depends on how you "come back". If you do it in a whiny, pleading sort of way where you frame it as YOU being rewarded for getting HER back, that's going to cause this to happen. The way to frame it is that things have to change for it to work the second time around and you want to know what SHE is going to do to make it better for both of you. And at this point, if you've done anything wrong to her, this is also the time to briefly, confidently and calmly apologize and let her know you will work to fix it.

I probably didnt explain myself properly.. I will give you an example.

I was seeing a girl last year for a few months. We had an argument and then stopped talking. She didnt pick phone up to me and vice versa.

6-8 months later, I texted her happy birthday and she replied. We met up and it turns out that she missed me alot and asked people about me.
She went back to her country for a month, but surprisingly I didnt hear much from her while she was away. In fact, she didnt wish me happy birthday and didnt acknowledge when I went into hospital for a small operation which she knew about which I thought was weird. We did have a bit of fun before she went away although in all fairness, I made it clear (from day 1 on first round) that i couldnt date her properly.

When she got back to the UK, she called me from airport and came round next day with flowers as I had the operation. - very nice of her. Next day we arranged to meet and she didnt call me or answer phone at time of meet. xI texted her to let her know I was a bit pissed off and till this day (3 weeks later) no reply.
- very strange.

Ok, so thats a bit of a long drawn out example and I appreciate that she realises i am probably not in it for the long term, although she knew that originally, but i just started to wander if this '2nd time around' thing makes your position weaker..

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