I was with my gf about to have my first time. Started kissing and other stuff (maybe too much time of foreplay). I started fingering her and eventually when I was about to get the condom my dick started to go soft, I had no erection at all. Her moaning didnt even turn me on, its like I didnt give a fuck (which I didnt :/). My hand on my dick didnt do anything. She is hot, I like her. I DONT GET IT. I was tired (but i had the erection (+-) before. It might be from tiredness or anxiety. Hope its tiredness. I have really difficulties in acting normal as far as my brain is concerned I AM SO FUCKD UP cant stop thinking about it :/ I said it was cuz I was tired but it left her a little thoughtful, fuck. If it was anxiety next time I will even be more anxious cuz I failed the first. I am desperate. Please help

Maybe you're just gay? It's ok I have a good mate that's gay, there's no shame in it.

hell no. truth is sometimes I dont feel that sexual

Performance anxiety like this is a lot more common than you probably realize. Chill out, don't think about it, and don't force yourself to have sex if you don't feel like it. The problem will take care of itself naturally.

Your boy,
870

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Dude, don't worry. If it becomes a bit of a problem, be honest with your gf. It is most likely anxiety. I had it the first time, too. Big time actually.

Luckily, the girl was experienced and waited until I got hard.

I did a lot of foreplay, she even went down on me while only half erect. The thing the eventually helped was rubbing my penis against her pussy and just focusing on how good it felt, and then once hard go in.

Do that, rub it against her until you get hard. ONLY focus on that. She will also not mind it, it'll feel good for the both of you. Stop worrying, it's quite common, like 870 said.

what traveler said, also stop masturbating. And stop watching porn too. Then after one week you will be able to get aroused by almost anything. True story.