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Ive been hanging out with this girl at parties latley. Ive known her for a while so cold pick up game does not exactly apply. I like her but im having trouble escalating. This sounds fucking stupid and with any other girl I would obviously know the answer to my own problem. I am not new to the game and I am not new to understanding the basic rules or social dynamics. However this girl is a complete game changer. I guess she is what people would call prude and its hard to calibrate her because of this.
I want to take the next step with this girl but I dont know how to do it without offending her or making her super uncomfortable. Its definitly a oneitis kind of deal and im aware of this. How should I handle this? Any advice would be appreciated. thanks and cheers.
-BRAD
lets dis-agree on this one, cold pick up game absolutely does apply, if not you are headed to the fun old friend zone
your best bet is to withdraw for a week or two so she misses you a bit (assuming she is invested), then come back at this like a cold approach and actually escalate, if you can't, then you need to go find other girls, or settle for this girl being your friend cause you can't escalate due to neediness
you have to get to that yes or no answer, the longer you procrastinate the more likely she thinks you are not interested and loses interest in you for it, and if you show interest without escalating expecting some sort of reaction and continue to do so, she will also lose interest, with the whole all talk no action thing going on
you have to make a move, that dick isn't gonna fuck it's self, if you can't make a move you have to do yourself a favour and back away from her because you are getting needy and it will only get worse, there are always other girls if one you like doesn't work out, a girl either likes you or she doesn't, if you have some time logged with her she knows which of those two categories you fall into, allowing things to become stagnant will only make the less desireable category more likely
and also, she isn't special, she isn't a game changer, she is just a regular girl like the rest of them, the only difference is you have invested yourself in her without getting her to invest equally into you and now are not feeling fully confident about pursueing her because you are worried you might lose her, this is a good sign that a neediness is starting to develop inside you, if she is not compliant, then she plain and simple doesn't want to have sex with you at the moment, if that is the case, get over it, improve yourself and move on, you're going to have to learn at some point to not invest yourself in girls until they give you a good reason (giggling and being pretty is not a good enough reason, look for more then that, screen for that good old compliance better, and more quickly, you will not waste your time this way)
CHAT