| ** The following is my opinion, you do not have to accept my philosophy explained here nor reject it, I just want you to think about it and have your own experience with it.Please keep this in mind when reading.**
I have been in the game for about a year and half now with moderate success , I am just in high school. I have come to an epiphany about the game and the guys (like me) trying so hard to succeed in it. I thought of a question which is : why are we in the game? Why are we trying so hard to impress women? Why are we fully prepared to become someone else just for the sake of getting with women?
This is my answer: It is not because you want a girl's tongue in your mouth after 10 minutes of meeting her, although you might consciously think that. It is all about what comes with that, which is: acceptance. Acceptance is the main reason that we are in the game. Simply put, we do not feel good about ourselves. There is a hole in every person on this planet. You(and me) are trying to fill it up with acceptance from women. There are various reasons you might feel inadequate, your up-bringing, rejection from a father etc. I want to tell you all this : YOU, my fiend, YOU, ARE GOOD ENOUGH! That's right, you are good enough, just as you are, you don't need a women's validation to feel that, you can feel it right now ,where you are sitting. I think realizing that and realizing why you really are in the game is winning it, not banging 10 girlfriends a week. Neill Strauss puts it well in The Game: "I still wasn't above shallow
validation-seeking. None of us were. That's why we were in the game. Sex
wasn't about getting our rocks off; it was about being accepted."
and when Dustin( the natural PUA) said: "I realized that I got my
entire validation from women. Women became like gods to me, but false
gods. So I went to find the real God."
That is probably the truest words in the whole book. I think when you TRULY realize this then you will become free of the game. Free of the constant social analyzing and the need to get women in your bed. My advice is do not let your self-validation come from women, it is not healthy and it will bring you so much suffering.
The only time that the game will truly be beneficial is if you completely stop searching for validation of women to make you feel good about yourself, but this rarely(never) happens, if you get rejected by a girl and it has ABSOLUTELY NO, and I mean truly NO effect on you , when you come to the end of the month after going out 5 nights a week and you haven't gotten a single phone number, just rejects and it doesn't have a single slightest effect on you or your sense of self-worth, you have won my friend,but this never happens, we are still seeking that self-validation from the opposite sex. I personally fill that hole with Christianity and God. People often try to fill it with drugs, alcohol etc. to forget or make them feel good about themselves, consciously or unconsciously.
So there, that is my take on the whole game, please leave a comment, I would like to know what you guys think of this.
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