I think i might like my friend. I'm constantly thinking about her, but i try to drown it out with thoughts on gaming women. I want to f close her but also want to keep the friendship as as nothing happened. I'm not even sure if i want to date her. I seriously do not want to destroy this friendship. how do i get over this oneitis. I started to neg my friends and acted too cocky and arrogant. they seem rather distant now. how can i get these friends back?

First of all, what do u mean you want to f close and then act nothing happened?
Once you f close, the relationship will change automatically. If you are too afraid of giving it a go and try to f close her you soon, you will be stuck in friend zone for a long time buddy and your oneitis disease will only get bigger..
There is a difference between being a jerk/ dick and negging women.. probably you were over cocky or whatever.. If that is you, don't apologize for what you did.. If that isn't you, I think you should apologize for being arrogant and ask them to hang out or something.[/list]

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Negs are playful...if people are distancing from you...you can't neg.. : /

Toss negs to the side with most other garbage PU techniques you've read about.

A lot of the bullshit being peddled by the PUA community will actually get you further away from gaming women.

Yea, thats a lesson i learned the hard way. Negging a friend is never a good thing.

actual LOL...so do i...

Peppering negs into your routine if done correctly is good. But the problem is most people don't know how the hell to use them, let alone what they are, and what they are designed for.

A lot of guys think a neg is something like, "Your breath smells like shit." which is more of a flat out insult and will definitely not help. Granted I go to an extreme example here but I've heard some really bad negs that are more of insults than actual teasing.

The other common misconception is you need to use a lot of these things. In reality only a few of these are needed. Its very rare you need more than that.

Then again those guys that know an actual playful neg lilke "Ooh I like your nails thats a good color, my lil sis has that same one I think, she's 9. (Give her a quick wink, grin, or punch her in the arm) Anyways...." These can be useful in creating push pull type of attraction if done the right way and with the right body language just throwing it and continuing on with your routine as if nothing happened. Or if you think it could be too powerful you can use some non-verbal with it so she knows you're toying with her.

Again most people don't know how to use them correclty so I will say if you don't, then eliminate them from your game. If you do then PARTY ON. They are not necessary though.

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