Hey guys,

I have come to bit of a dead end with my game. I can pick up fairly easily - I'm not saying I'm particularly good at it or that there's nothing left for me to learn, but it's unusual for me not to go back with a girl on a night out nowadays. I've always said that I didn't really want a relationship - and I've never had a proper one really. I'm 22 years old, I once had a three month 'relationship' if you can call it that, but other than that it's always been casual. There have been connections there, but I've never been interested in making it anything serious to be honest.

At the moment, I still sort of feel that I don't want a relationship, but I just don't seem to be getting a kick out of one night stands and pick up as much as I used to anymore. It's hard to put my finger on it. It's not that I have lost interest in the girls as such, it's more just a feeling of I simply can't be bothered and that I don't get a lot out of it.

Any tips on what's up and how to kick it?

what's to kick?

you can't be bothered right now. so go with it.

at some point i bet you will be bothered.

but right now you can't. no great shakes. you're only 22. lol.

i couldn't be bothered with it either at that age and i had to fight them off with a shitty stick.

of course now at 38 i can be bothered and its like finding water in the Sahara...

don't you just love life?

You are either lacking libido, or not dating women of high enough caliber to get it out of you. Start talking exclusively to 9s and 10s who give you instant boners and it'll revitalize your motivation. Otherwise, adopt a testosterone diet, hit the gym, and stop fapping any more than once a week. I promise you results. The key to coming back will be in understanding yourself, and exactly WHY you're lacking motivation. For example, it's also possible that you're simply lacking goals and do not know exactly what you want in life or out of women.

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Rufas - the thing is, it's not a good sort of can't be bothered. It's not like "oh I can't be bothered to go for a run today so I'm going to sit in play fifa, have a beer and go out tonight instead", or even a "yeah I'm not into that at the moment, but I'll be back" sort of feeling. It's just a bit of a dull nothingness, boredom and lack of drive to get on with it. And it's highly unlike me not to have motivation and drive, in fact I'd say I can't ever remember a time where I have had this little enthusiasm for something I have previously enjoyed a lot.

Yeah you're probably right Hakuna. I don't think I'm lacking goals - career and person wise I've got a pretty good plan of where I want to be in 50 years time and what I want to have achieved, but the rest of what you say could well be it.

I am in the middle of exams and revision as well, which aren't stressing me out particularly, but I have probably been less social and am feeling slightly more drained from the boredom of it all. The libido point is very possibly spot on though.

Strange thing is, however, for the past month, maybe month and a half, I've been exercising a lot more - going for runs at least every other day if not every day, plus weights work outs maybe three times a week. One question I'll ask - do you think diet (as in losing body fat dieting) could have an effect? I'm eating good stuff, plenty of vitamins and vegetables, leafy greens, plenty of protein, some decent fats in the form of nuts etc. but I'm eating less calories than I was a few weeks back. Could that (over the course of say a month or so) be beginning to catch up with me?

The masturbation point I don't think should have much affect - I have had times before where I've done it three or four times a day for weeks on end and not noticed any difference. Nowadays I do normally do it only perhaps once or twice a week, but have done it slightly more (say maybe once a day) due to revision period, which = not getting out/massive boredom!

I think you could well be right on the women front though. Since about the middle of February I've been hooking up with this girl who, to be perfectly honest, is below my usual standards. But it's just easy and I suppose I could have fallen into the trap of knowing that I'm guaranteed it with her which could well be resulting in some sort of complacency. It's not that I haven't seen other girls at the same time but I probably have seen less as the time has gone along. I might have to cut ties and get back into chicks more up to my standards!

Cheers for taking the time to reply anyway man.

That's why I workout 6x a week. I like to flap at least 2x a day.