I met this girl about a month ago. Pashed her and promised her id take her out so went on a date with this chick today. shes 18 im 28 wtf am i thinkin! then again this was only supposed to be for sex. the date went ok...there were a lot of questions asked by me but not by her. later on when it was time to leave i paid for our drinks (only because she was a poor student and i felt sorry) outside i offered to drop her off at her house but her house was only two blocks away so she declined. fair enough. then we kissed. but she pulled and said sorry im not really looking for a relationship, ive just come out of a two year old relationship. im looking for a friend. game over. i got home and texted " Amy thanks for comnig out, your one cool bird and id love to hang out if your keen" she replies saying "yeah it was fun definitely. sorry about the end part though, im nt really looking for a relationship, hope thats ok.


i know fucked up on MANY MANY parts on this interaction. can some one please analyze what i did wrong and help me so i can avoid this ending? its been twice this year. and tell me something - when a girl says shes not looking for a relationship does it mean shes only keen to have sex or hookup? should i bother texting back? if so whats a good reply?

I've been here a lot my friend, the latest was only recently. Basically what she is saying, what she really means, is she isn't attracted to you and you are now firmly in the friend zone.

Move on, if you hang out in future it will be purely as friends. There is probably ways and means to turn this round, but it sounds like you are still new to this, like me, so its better to just move on to the next one.

Basically you didn't escalate thing correctly, some of the more experienced guys will help you out with the specifics on how to do this (or better yet, search through the forums - there is a wealth of info there).

But the best advice I can give - move on. Try and get other women in your life so you stop focusing on just one.