Hey guys, been awhile since I've been here. I've been out doing some practice and I've learned a lot in the past couple months. However, I am currently in a situation that I haven't been in before and I think it is setting up the potential for a bad trend. This incredibly attractive girl (one of the most attractive girls I know actually) joined my soccer team a few weeks ago. She added me and started messaging me over facebook, so I gamed her up, got her number and now she is really, really into me. She keeps mentioning how cute I am, that I am funny, laughs at the way I word a lot of my phrases, loves my personality and that she has so much fun with me. I've been talking to her for over a week now, she just finished her semester yesterday and we finally got the chance to actually hangout alone. She came over to watch a movie. I COULD NOT kiss her. I tried early in the encounter to set the stage and she wouldn't go for it. We watched the movie, lots of kino, giving/receiving massages, she would wrap my arms around her and put my hands on her chest, but when I went in for a kiss the second time when it seemed like a good opportunity... shot down again! I'm not saying she needs to drop her panties right off the bat but wtf. She even started leaving shit at my apartment already (on purpose). She wants to see me again and she will probably come over again Sunday evening. How do I fix/change this? This has never happened to me before. Also, she is 21 and I am 27.

Make a game out of it, Either make a bet on something or play the 5 lies game and if she loses you get a kiss.

That should get rid of any ASD because if she lost she is obliged to kiss you because of the deal and not because she wants to so badly. Also it makes it more fun in a way rather than super sexual make out session.

Once that seal is broken you shouldn't have much resistance when you try to kiss her later on.

Thanks for that advice, I will definitely use it! Now she just threw me a test and I tried to deflect it but she keeps pushing my deflections away...

HB: quick question, hope you don't mind, what are you feeling?
Me: I think the real question is, what are yoooouuu feeling?
HB: no no no, that's not fair I asked you first
Me: I'm feeling sleepy what are you feeling?
HB: not funnyyy

Don't know how to dodge it, any ideas? PS she is texting me, and I am taking long breaks between answers. I don't want to f it up here because I know this is a critical point.

"I'm actually feeling like we should catch up for (activity) on (day)"

Thanks dude, that worked like a charm! She was totally happy with my response that she dropped the question. I added a little emotional stuff on top of what you said and got her from nagging me about this, to being really excited and wanting to see me ASAP haha, thanks!

Great

Ultimate side step haha. Have fun!

Work on your phase-shift routines and you'll limit LMR.

Was this the first time she'd been to your place when you tried to kiss her? I also don't try the first kiss at my own place. That's the stage I set to fuck her after I've already gained her trust and comfort in my home.

While it seems it's too late - be careful shitting where you eat... It has a way of fucking up your world on occasion. Risk v. reward.


If I've felt all the IOIs, made the proper progression and EVERY sign tells me to kiss close - and she still says no (happens on rare occasion)... I end it. Hard and fast. I've called a chick out for this, and fuck-closed quickly thereafter, and I've also had the ones that said "I know, it's not you... but I just think we're rushing things..." At which point I have to make the decision "Is that true? Did I fuck up my escalation?" - which turns to "Does this even fucking matter to me?" And if it doesn't... I enjoy 4 words when I exit a chick who's that wishy-washy.

I say "Sorry, Your window closed"... and I leave.

I've fucked several after that whom have tried to reel me back, but most times, if I've shut my mind off to a chick, I'm fucking done. If she's hot, or a great fuck... yeah - I'll bend that policy LOL

Good luck.

RR

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