Hey guys,

Really want to know what you guys would do in this situation. I have been dating this girl for little over a month now, she told me she liked me, and saw me as more than a friend, and seriously told me she wanted a relationship with me.

We dated like 6 months before, but something really bad happend in her family, and she wanted to have a break. A very legit reason, and I gave her the space she needed.

So we started dating again a month ago.

Here is what happend last month:

-At first, she started texting me obvious IOI's, and was always asking who i was dating. I answered honestly, and told her I was dating but nothing serious at that moment.

-I wasn't really into her anymore, but she kept on texting and texting. until a month ago, she told me she liked it, she wanted to date me again, and felt really awkward about it that she has told me this. I told her that I had to think about it.

-Next day she texted me she wanted to drive all the way from her (70miles) to my place, just to chill. I told her I wasn't home then, and she quickly rescheduled, and I agreed. We made out, did some handwork, but she didn't want me to penetrate yet she said.

-The next day she texted me she wanted to come to my competition. I didn't text anything, because my phone is off at competion day. But she came anyways..

-She continued to text and send me pictures and stuff. At this point I started to be attracted at her again.

-Like a week later, I had to go abroad for 2 weeks, she kept texting me IOI's and stuff a girlfriend would normally send you. I called her like 3 times, she was really happy to hear me.

-After 2 weeks I came home, she called me when I came home everything was fine.

-A week later, she had exams, (which she still has till the first of juin) But her mood changed, she started to get distant, almost quit texting me, and if I call her, she says her phone isn't working, and is apologizing.

-I know that she needs time to study for her exams, so I gave her time. I texted her: it seems that you are very busy SPAM, I think it would be better for you to focus on your exams, and stop dating me for a while. And that you can come back at me later if your exams are over.

-She texted back: But I don't want you to stop talking with me!

-I told her that it was ok.

-After that, she started to send me short and distant messages.

Is it because she has exams, because I can't see that I did anything wrong? Will she be the girl she was before, after her exams?

I am not really sure what I should do, and i am not even sure if she is still attracted to me.


Btw, I don't have oneitis or something, I date 2 more girls SPAM, 1 of them has also exams, but she is not acting like her.


I would appreciate your suggestions and ideas, as i want this girl to stick around.

She is a HB9 btw.

One more thing i have read alot of books about pua, did some seminars, and read books related to pua like way of the superior man. But still not really sure how i should continue. I want to know how to deal with this kind of situations in the future anyways, not especially for this girl.

Thanks!

Positivevibe

This is funny, I got a girl taking exams too; and she's being the same way, mines a bit less extreme though, she's only is short in school and usually becomes normal after school so my guess would be exams probably are playing a factor. Also women change every 5 seconds, they'll be completely into you at 10 and then at 10:05 they'll be PMSing about someone; just wait a bit for her to return to the stage you liked (it should happen) but of course, game other girls in the meantime

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Well the good news is it isn't oneitis!

She might warm back up after exams some people crumble under pressure in more ways than one. Or she may just be having trouble thinking of things to talk about when her head is full of study.
If you want to keep things going then do it, won't take much effort from your part if she is already keeping communication to a minimum just do enough to keep things going.

If it keeps up like this after exams you will move on of your own accord anyway.

I say give her the benefit of the doubt that exams are crushing her.

What a coincidence! My girl is full of stress, and barely sleeping. She still can be really sweet though, but she is distant, and I actually feel sorry for her! This is also the reason I doubt she still cares about me, because the other girl i am dating is the exact opposite! But i know what you mean, girls are hot and cold, but i think it's a good thing that they are testing us. The problem is I don't exactly know how to maintain a strong masculin vibe in this particular situation.
Tell me more about your girl, i am interested!
It seems she does not know what to talk about! Think you are spot on! I will give her the benefit of the doubt, i have nothing to lose anyways, and i respect her, so it wouldn't be a problem thanks for your advice!