Please help: pretty sure i fucked things up with this girl im living with

ill drop you some background info first:
So I've been living in student accommodation for almost a year now and spend most of my time in a flat with this big group of friends including this HB that i have been working on for a few weeks now.

so i was running some pretty solid game on her before the easter break from uni. she slept in my bed but i didnt want to do anything cus i didnt want it to be a one night stand since i live with her (she tends to stay away from relationships). a few days later she stays round again but i just couldnt get her past the ASD :/


then it was easter break - i talked to her on fb a lot. then she went to a party with her friends from home and sent me a drunken message when i was out the country:

[her] "hey i know im texting you but my internet here is shit: i really like talking to you and i love you, [my name]. x x x"

i sent back a message via fb cus i couldnt text back while out the country.

[me] "Aww [her name] that was a sweet text
made my day

I dont know if you if you really mean that or not since you have been drinking :p but whether or not it means a lot to me

Thought i'd send you this so you dont go to bed thinking "omg he didnt reply what have i done etc etc" because i cant send texts from [country i was in]

Ill talk to you tomorrow - in the mean time listen to this"
[sent her a pretty chilled out song]

[her] "LOL do not remember texting you but obviously i meant it!
and i was far too drunk and passed out to think oh no [my name] hates me, so no worries there
but thanks [her pet namefor me] for making sure i didnt think that, youre a sweet guy
now im gonna go wash the smell of beer and wine off my skin, wish me luck! "

ok so then carried on talking to her on fb like normal (bit of dhv here and there - lots of negging) til the end of the holiday

got back to uni - day before my bday - spent it with the flat, was chatting to this girl who is a really good friend of mine most of the time but HB thinks there might be somehting more between me and friend - so it was acting as a jealousy push and pull to the HB.

next day (my bday) we all go clubbing - k-closed - all went back to a friends house - me and her went to kitchen to get some coffee and were there for like and hour chatting and negging etc (felt like 15 mins to both of us)

went back to her room - but i had whiskey dick :/ and i couldnt sleep from all the coffee and redbull - so i was awake for the whole night and im pretty sure i was being pretty wierd (like stroking her arm lightly a lot and stuff like that)

next morning i make her breakfast and she suggests we go to the park - so i go upstairs to brush my teeth etc and when i come back down she is asleep again, so i let her sleep.

she didnt wanna come out last night cus of "revision" but i think she is a bit freaked out by my sleepless night of wierdness and the fact that we have been in same bed like 3 times now and NOTHING HAS HAPPENED!!!!

i think that from here things can either go really well (if she isnt freaked out) or really fucked up (if she is) - dont think there is a middle ground

normally i would let things pan out and wouldnt care - but i live with her and really dont want things to be fucking awkward.

I think part of the problem is you're using PUA techniques that really don't work. Negs are lame as hell, they serve no purpose other than perpetuating and exploiting any negative feelings she might already have. Also I'm getting the sense you use them quite a lot, this in all likelihood will come across as very annoying to women.

Right now you seem to be in a holding pattern - I'm getting there's not a whole lot of sexual tension between the two of you. I'd ditch these little techniques you've pickup as they are hurting your game, not improving it; this is a prime example how without any sexual escalation no PUA technique in the world will help you. I don't like hearing things like "sweet guy" from a girl as it generally, though not always, infers that you're simply a friend. She's in your bed 3x and you've yet to make any overt move? You need to learn how to become a sexual threat to her, at least this way you'll know truly whether she likes you or not. Don't verbalize your sexual prowess, instead convey it through body language (going for her hands for mutual caressing etc.. NO incidental touching that's lame as hell). If you aren't working from a completely sexual frame you aren't doing shit. Go read some 60yearsofchallenge to unlearn all that other garbage you've read. Next time you see her you need to take more initiative in making overt physical contact, and escalate from there (60's mutual hand caressing, pulling her in etc..).

It will only be awkward if you think it is. Just act totally relaxed as if you don't give a shit. If she likes you it will happen, but if you overthink things and worry about it being awkward then you'll fuck it up.

Proceed as normal.

This.


Don't make up excuses, don't bring up the past. Whatever happened happened. Now to get over that miserable last attempt, I would invite her over to your room to like watch a movie. Get some drinks, start cuddling and then escalating.

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thanks guys - great advice here
got my bday party at the house tomorrow night so ill let you know how things go

x

cool - so party was good. spoke to her a bit but didn't like spend the entire night around her whatever, mainly cus i had friends from home that i was jamming with most of the night.

most people went clubbing after - her and some other friends stayed in cus they weren't drinking too much

went next day to her room so she could fix something of mine that i broke in her room before - chatted to her or a while - she seemed pretty chilled, relaxed etc - so don't think i've fucked it up

yesterday i woke up in a good mood, so went downstairs with a big smile on my face just as she walked through the door. she had just finished an exam and immediately asked me if i wanted to go to the pub to celebrate with her and a few of our mates who were there already.

everything was good but there doesnt seem to be the same tension between us as before

giving her a bit of space and not trying to force anything SPAM

(tbh if things continue like this then im happy, but something more would be nice)

peace x

Dude. This.

lol.

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"That shit cray"

-Hit me up with some Reps if anything I say has helped! Much love.

just like to say thanks to everyone for your help
everything has worked out perfectly - spent every night of the last 2 weeks with her
couldnt be happier cheers fellas
xx

You fucked the same chick for 2 weeks straight?

You call it "working out", I'd call it getting caught!




Seriously, good for you man!!!

RR

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hahah at the moment this is all i wanted with exams and work etc i dont really have time for sarging and game - also i didnt wanna fuck her over
come the summer i will see if it is worth keeping this going as i wont be living in the same halls as her next year so i dont have to see her everyday - as of now though i am happy
thanks again guys

-peace