I have an incredibly high perception of myself. I genuinely believe I am well above average in terms of looks, lifestyle, personality (sense of humour, being relaxed, being nice but not a bitch etc) and i project this image. I walk around with my head high, i joke around and more often than not i have a hop in my step.
I can tell people know I am comfortable with who I am as I get complimented often on many aspects of my person. people assume i get laid because i project all this confidence to the world, in fact a guy in my direct social circle is under the impression i am with new girls on a weekly basis (i never lie about this sort of thing either its just his assumption) when reality is i have been with two girls in my life.

and that is exactly the problem! I hold myself to such a high standard that i dont want to tarnish my image of myself and i dont want others to see that image tarnished either. so as a result i barely approach girls because Im worried i will prove everyone wrong including myself.
its not just opening either, when i end up interacting with girls i can usually tell when i could get a number or k close or whatever but i never go for it because i am happier to walk away knowing "i could have gotten her number".

I would love to hear some opinions on this... especially if hobbit is reading.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

The simple answer which you already seem to know in your own post is: You are a pussy.


Now don't take that offensively or start tossing rocks, but that's literally what you are in this scenario. You have a hop in your step, you're very above average in looks, but you aren't taking any action or risks. You're a big hop in your step, walking, talking, pussy.

Now once again I'm only doing this because I know you can handle it and no amount of coddling or shit you want to hear will inspire you other than the reality that you already know what you are doing. I mean look at your topic for fucks sake. You even say "I have a problem..don't want to ruin my self perception" but then you're not doing shit!

You're a big, above average, good looking, bonafide - PUSSY.

Start taking the risks, start going for the K-Close (personally these don't do shit in terms of sex closes..its just great PUA bragging bullshit) when YOU feel it inside that you want to (Stop relying on girls IOIs and shit...some women never give them). If she pushes you away, if she turns her head. Who fucking cares? You didn't need to "know I can get her number" or even want her number. You just wanted what you WANTED in that moment.

FREEDOM FROM OUTCOME + INTENT = You're not a pussy anymore.

haha i really enjoyed reading that. i think that is one of the only times i have actually laughed out loud because you hit the nail on the head.

go for what you want... i like that. i guess the guy who takes risks deserves more respect than the guy who doesnt but should.
actually reading back over that the second guy doesnt deserve any haha alright ima try and alter the mindset to pay more respect to effort and attempts as opposed to reputation.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

get to day 7, DAY 7 YOU ARE SO CLOSE!!, DAY 7

...also yeah believe in yourself all in your head, etc. etc. you know the deal

Cap'n Jack - You are the fucking man.

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

I really don't know what to tell you. I would say you have to be willing to fail if you want to succeed. I personally don't know of a way to game without dealing with the possibility of rejection because you put yourself out there. As a man you have to put yourself out there. And if you are going to learn on your own you have to learn by "trial and error." So their are really only 2 ways I can think of to game without ever getting rejected

1.) Find a master Pua and let him mentor you. This has to be somebody that is good and also knows how to make others could. He can't be MJ, the greatest player of all time, but has the worst team in the league as a GM. If you learn from a master you can avoid all the mistakes and cut the learning curve.

2.) Make the girls chase you. Build your reputation. This would essentially be like becoming a celebrity. Show everyone you have amazing value and then girls chase you like groupies.

Perfection is very rare. Most people lose at some point.

However, I do understand your concern about rejection. It gives a girl lots of power. It can hurt your social status. And people can look down on you for it. That is just a sacrifce your going to have to make if you can't think of away around it.

Unless you're narcissistic boasting about attributes you don't possess, this is the ideal frame. I'm thinking you're exuding something different which is putting people off, because a confidant person is an attractive thing.

Ok pumping ton i will get to day seven. I find myself highly motivated by challenge (probably because it feeds my ego).
And I have considered I may be a narcissist but I don't know I guess that's not something I could diagnose?

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

Just took an online narcissists diagnosis, it said I'm not a narcissist, however I'm a bit vain and exploitative.

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I said it once, and I WILL say it again without the need to associate fancy psychological bullshit to it:

You're a big hop in your step, walking, talking, pussy.

It's called the Pussy Test. You passed. As a man to man dialogue, you know what I'm saying to you resonates at your core. Go out there and start putting yourself on the fucking line. Tarnishing of reputation will come in daygame, but who cares you're a man. You can look past it.

Ok so since my last post (I was in a lecture then) I have opened three sets all situationally. Didn't push it past general chit chat but I broke the social barrier. Good start. Now to take bigger steps. And keep taking them (as opposed to doing it for a while an then stopping when I know I can do it and I've hit a girl).

I've been in the community for a while now but got tied down twice. This time I'm going to push my limits and not settle for the first girl to spread em.

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it is simple man, you have to form a new habit, like going to the gym, go do 1 a day, the 7 day challenge over and over until it feels normal, it's just like brushing your teeth in the mourning, you see one hot girl a day, you go talk to the hot girl and since she doesn't know you, you make her comfortable with the idea of talking to her, you do that by setting a frame quickly and building a foundation of rapport (basically just start a convo you will get better at making the other person comfortable faster the more you do this as well as delivering intent), your going to encounter all sorts of reactions, just start by moving on from the negative ones (seriously you can just stop talking mid sentance and walk away), when you find girls that are just shitting their pants, smiling, frozen up listening to everything you say, complying, and investing, trying to qualify for you after you talk when you are not saying anything or randomly just seem excited, that's the sort of thing you're looking for, except you will have a type of girl that you will especially click with based on your personality (for example: I like girls that are immature, fun, funny and extroverted), you will find your niche of the sort of girls you like, eventually turn that one a day habit into 5+ a day habit until you either are sitting on top of a nice pipeline of casual sex, or you found one of those girls from within your niche to date exclusively, really it is up to you and how motivated you are, what ever you want you can obtain it, but to know what you want you have to know who you are, if you have no identity and can't figure out what you're looking for, then you won't find it until you start looking

Sounds simple enough, I'm going to have to start going to the city or something though (because I live in a pretty small area) or I will run out of girls haha.
But yea that sounds easy when you put it like that.
I ran four sets today, all just with situational bullshit. If I just keep doing it I will be sweet, it's when I take time away or become complacent that I lose the motivation so I'm going to build off of this from here and just put in work.
Thanks guys. It all helps to hear.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

Thinking strategically. If you want to avoid public embarassment, hit on the girls when they are alone.