Oneitis has been on my mind for awhile. In the past, I would reply to it as just gaming other girls to get rid of it but does PUA leave no room for the potential girlfriend you have been looking for all along? I don' understand anymore, I have looked at my values and I dislike the meaningless sex that I get. It sucks because it's just a fucking pussy, especially in todays age where sex is easy to get. I want to be able to connect with people on a personal level. I don't know, I think 60 years of challenge nailed on the head when talking about affection virgin. Just tired of fucking chicks.

you get oneitis from putting the pussy on a pedestal

Eh, I don't know about the pedestal. I understand that this girl can either take it or leave it so I am aware that it's not a pedestal problem. Just speaking in general, like is there really no such fairy tale as that one person that you want to get to know more or is it all a big fish net and trying to get as many girls as possible? Is it really just about the numbers?

Its up to you. Now that you been doing pick up you are probably in the habit of talking to many girls so even if you fall in love you might feel the urge to cheat...

Falling for a girl depends on the value that you place on her and how you see her. If you think a girl is literally God's gift to Earth you're gonna be crazy about her, but if you think she is nothing more than eye candy that can be replaced with the snap of your finger then you don't care. Its a matter of perspective.

Society sets people up to heartbroken because they make love seem so great and they make sex seem like a life changing experience. So people really get their hopes up and want it like crazy, but people would never get hurt like that if pussy wasnt so overrated.

there totally is that fairy tail buddy, you just gotta fuck the girl first then relationship second, makes things run much more smoothly, if sex is just so easy for you to get, then oneitis shouldn't be a problem, just go out and fuck 10 other women, you will forget about her, and out of the 10 you can choose who is the best potential girlfriend, then keep on meeting more women all the time, eventually one will stand out, just hang out with that one and continue having sex on a regular basis, chances are eventually... boom she wants to be your girlfriend

I really think that the womanizer who does not want to settle down is a rare breed. We are genetically engineered (most men anyway) to settle down with women and fuck lots of other women on the side.

I highly recommend that you read Slywalker's threads at the PUA Lounge.

Personally, I'm surprised that you reached this point in your life too early. I've reached the same point in my 30s. Unfortunately, I didn't know about PUA structures and strategies yet before I settled down so I mismanaged my previous relationship big time. I sucked at the compliance techniques department. Since I tried to be alpha in all things even in the kitchen, I couldn't get the girl to cook meals for me when I was rushing a job.

Lessons learned: Let the girl be alpha in the kitchen and in any activities that would pleasure you. You couldn't be great in ALL things.

The stability of settling down has been good for my career though.

As for the one you have to settle down with, you need to have a very clear criteria on the type of girl you want. You might gain some insights on my criteria. Here they are:

• 1. A girl who can manage the defensive side of wealth building and management.
  
  2. A girl who will remain loyal and faithful and yet understanding enough to let me fuck other girls on the side.
  
  3. A good mom to her children, a responsible wife to her husband, a conservative and respectable woman in the community, and a multi-orgasmic whore in bed.

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If you're tired of meaningless sex, try to get to know the girl. Talk to her more before you f close etc.
It's really pointless to complain about this, it's all your choice. Just because you're a PUA doesn't mean you HAVE to fuck as many girls as you can.

Well I have evaluated what I wanted and definitely set on getting a girlfriend sometime. I guess I will have to meet as many women as possible, fuck some that I actually like and leave the uninteresting ones for other guys. Thanks guys

I feel like this sometimes as well... Especially during the past week. It would be a lie to say PUA doesn't affect on potential relationships; the meaning of sex easily degrades with multiple partners. If you feel you find connection with a girl, by all means try dating her in a traditional way and see where it leads.

It's a humane need to crave love and acceptance, even for players and wannabe players.

HH is dead-on.

I'm one of the rare breed. I don't want a relationship. I LIKE fucking women, plural. Rarely does the feeling hit me that I 'need' a chick; and it's a fleeting moment when I do feel it.

I'm devoid of emotion in many aspects, and it's fucked up... But I don't give a fuck. I'm done with heartbreak. Being the bad boy that women want to fuck works for me; knowing it's short term is one of the benefits.

RR

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Don't get me wrong, I appreciate my freedom as well, just like a lot of people, both men and women.

Your welcome to do whatever makes you happy, but "being done with heartbreak" tells something as well in my books.

Hellhound, do you honestly expect unconditioned loyalty and faithfullness from a girl when still sleeping with other women? Whatever she may say, her love and trust for you will be flawed, if you do that.

It's more about finding someone so you dont have to game women your whole life. you get tired of it, I have. I teach others but I dont Do it much myself any more, because Im in a relationship.

I dont believe there is ONE, but you may find that your life is more stable after picking one. Some are happy with never settling down, which is fine for them.

Im sure there are plenty of people who married what they felt was the one, only to meet somebody better the following week.

With billions of people in the world, there is always likely to be somebody out there who is more compatible, but you can never find it too.

Sometimes close enough is just right.

Depends on what you actually want. Relationships always have problems and are never perfect, so there's no "one" I say, and the more mature women out there actually know this as well.

I'd say experiment with both, see how it goes.

Me personally, I've found swinging to be my thing. I've been able to have much longer relationships with women who are also swingers because of matched sex drive and kinky freak-ism.

It's all about what works for you.

^ that, what happens i will talk about my personal experience, you go into fucking rampage of 3-6 months sometimes a year, then you want a gf... The key is to have a gf, and girls on the side that you get rid of them fast.. As pumpington said if you want to have a gf fuck her first and then work your way backwards to a relationship, by the way 60 has a gf...

http://www.datingskillsreview.com/ep-17 ... -andersen/

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