I work in a club and am both allowed and encouraged to talk to the people there. To smile and give service. Even if that service is throwing someone out.

I've dated about 6 women through the last 5 months I met there and am looking to take a break from dating and just build up a social circle of people to party with, hang out with, go to events with, whatever they have going on that I could join in on and experience. I don't know how to go about this however.

I can get a number and a date but I'm now more freaked out by the unknown steps of building a friendship out of the blue. Women with interesting fun friends would be the goal. Perhaps interesting men who do cool things, but I don't want to come off homosexual or creepy. I don't have women in my current social circle and I miss them, even if its not sexual.

How do I build up a social circle of women to spend time with that I'm meeting out of the blue at the club. Some approach me to flirt or talk, some I approach myself.
I'm naturally flirty but want to make sure I come across that I am not interested in dating, but want fun friends, and that I am fun.

Keywords, things to say, things to eleviate their concerns. I'd like to be called with invitations to go do interesting things. I'm not interested at this time in being a social leader at this time and try and setup friendship events with people I barely know, thats even harder to get going than a first date.


Some of you guys are bound to have awesome social circles, I would like to have one as well. I'm 26 and all I've done with women these last 5 months is one on one dating, I want something lighter. I've already got a no strings attached sexual partner.

Socialize with groups of people. Find couples, people that give off positive energy and seem very friendly. Tell anyone you meet you are relatively new to the area and are looking to make some cool friends. As far as females go, all you need to is tell them you are trying to make friends. Find women that have boyfriends, make friends with both of them. The more social the couple the better.

Be super friendly to everyone, eventually you will get invited out to other social events, making friends with people is easy if you are out going enough.

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Seduce their mind and the rest will follow.

Make a really good friend, use that friend to meet other friends. Hang out with the group multiple times, be cool, find common interests, give the group something they can benefit from.
Just be cool and don't come off as needy or a dickrider. During the first stages, if you don't get invited to something don't be a dickrider and invite yourself. Just don't worry about it. Once you hang out with the group enough and they start to find you cool, you'll start getting invited to things.

Yeah good advice so far. Any thoughts on how to transition from a regular happy conversation to say asking to exchange numbers for a hangout? I want that part to be smooth. It's always a little awkard in pickup.

I have lots of social conversations with randoms about all kinds of business, but since they are drinking I never know just how much of the conversation is real or how much is because they are drinking and I get buttered up by people who come to the club.

If you have a photographic memory, screen the regulars and filter out the random guests. Don't waste time on the random guests.

When you see a regular or a group of regulars coming over, sarge them for 2 to 3 minutes each and eject. The bail out or ejection is key so you can build trust. You don't want to come off as having vested interests like getting them to invest in your business or something.

After 3 or 4 encounters, casually ask for their numbers if they have not asked for your number yet. Once you build trust, they will usually be the first ones to ask for your number.

Where I'm Coming From

As a consultant for an engineering firm a few years back, part of my work involved taking out clients and business partners to clubs. We wine and dine these people. We all get girls every time. All expenses were paid by the corporation.

The unfortunate thing was, no bouncers ever built rapport with us. Floor managers usually did this job but they never took it to the next level where we can hang out during the day or after business hours. But the club girls were fairly good at this if you gave them enough fun. We hang out with some club girls at the beach and other venues during their leisure times.

The waiters too were good at this. In fact, some of my friends and clients invested in some business that a waiter offered. The waiter built solid trust with the non-needy approach I described above and by providing good, even excellent, service. We always gave him a tip every time.

Hope this insight helps.

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Whatever your job @ a club is, you always get more attention when you're staff. I myself am a (club) photographer for years and I'm kinda the opposite of you I mean I have so many friends thanks to clubs, even ex staff who I met years ago, we still go out and have dinner/drinks regularly. In large or smaller groups. Building that friendship wasn't hard tbh..at least not for me. If you have a smile and dress well, you'll have many friends in no time (whether it's a girl or boy). I'm kinda bored of all those friends, I mean they are ok if you really wanna socialize and stuff, but none of them can replace that 1 girl you're looking for.. After many years I need something else than friendship, a girlfriend If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't hangout that many times with these friends. But that's just something personally..