Hey, I'm very new to this subject. I wanted to ask you guys about this situation I have with a coworker. Well, this girl at work (We work as cashiers at a pretty big supermarket) is a very bubbly character. Atleast when I speak with her, as I havn't really noticed how she interacts with other people.

I've always been a very shy guy, but I've been trying to fix this lately. So her and I started talking lately, during breaks or when we're substituting eachother at the register. I've been trying to be more talkative, smiling, sarcastic in a nice way and poking fun of her, and it seems like she doesn't hate me. A typical response she has been making whenever I tease her is "Thanks, I love you too!", obviously with a little smile on her face. Whenever she does that I tend to break.


I'm usually very withdrawn when it comes to personal space, to be more specific, I don't mind being close or touching people, but I always fear that they do. But a few days ago at work, when she was substituting me, she'd stand very close to me, while waiting for me to get through the costumers and I thought I'd try telling her the "best reverse knock knock" joke in the world - Which I shamelessly stole from reddit: knock knock, come in, ....

While that joke didn't exactly.. Resonate with her. Out of nowhere she started giving my shoulders a light massaging, and saying "You're cute when you try to be funny". ( She actually repeated the cute part a few moments later, without the "when you try to be funny" part) Keep in mind all of this happended in font of a line of customers, I'm surprised I wasn't more embarressed than I was.

I find this girl interesting and different. I enjoy talking to her, and I want to make something happen. I realise physical contact is a part of this, sadly I suck at that. I feel like a complete weirdo whenever I touch people by my own volition, as a result of this, I havn't touched her a single time yet, while she has touched me several times. How do I fix this? I've already friendzoned myself once, by not being able to make a move. I do not want that again.

Might as well ask, do you guys think she is even interested in me? She is usually the one who opens conversations with me. Though I've been getting better.



Yeah, I realise this post is WAY longer than it should be, and horribly formatted. And for that, I apologize.

just touch the bitch, man. she is not going to file a sexual harassment suit against you. touch her touch her touch her.

Set up a date after work and get a drink with her. Just ask it. You'll soon know if she's interested or she's just an attention whore.

better to try and possibly fail than not try and certainly fail...


Try not to show weakness to her ala shyness or nervous. Don't look for sympathy...she's not your mom.

I would try to have some good conversations with her where I talk about myself and she herself then I would ask her out.I would face the unknow with courage and conviction...

If you think she likes you, then, SHE IS! be positive. Don't worry if you can't escalate properly, you'll soon calibrate. Try watching stealth seduction in youtube. And most importantly, don't give up!