I'm pretty new to the game and am just about getting the hang of things but there still is one problem that persists. I seem to come across as arrogant. I don't even use negs conciously as this could be a bit overbearing. Women frequently comment on my 'arrogant attitude'. Should I try to change and how? or should i use it as a tool to enhance my game and how? Your thoughts please...

If they call your arrogant and walk away, you're being insecure and rude. If she says you are arrogant yet she is laughing and staying around, you are doing the right stuff.

Don't ever get defensive when she calls you arrogant.

Are genuienely arrogant? Or do you like your personality? If you like your personality keep it, you may just have to conceal it initially. Here's the rule
"build a resovoir of goodwill" so when you are arrogant girls let it go.

I'm an extremely narcissistic and self involved man, or at least, there is a part of me that is. But I am aware of it and I reign it in. But for a long time people did think I was incredibly arrogant until I took a good hard look at myself, really examined who I am (with the help of a psychiatric nurse I was dating) and I developed self awareness about my flaws.

My arrogance, narcissistic tendencies and superficial vanity are sources of shame for me and I am working hard to build it up into confidence, because underneath it all I am riddled with insecurities.

It can be good to take a look at yourself and hit out some home truths.

There is nothing wrong with arrogance. There is nothing wron with using arrogance to deal with your insecurities. The only thing that is wrong is that other people don't like it....

When a girls calls you flat out arrogant that's really bad. You can be a little cocky or be very confident but arrogance is one of the biggest turn-offs in social interaction.
My former wingman was percieved arrogant as well. His problem was that he was stiff in posture, straight face with his neck even a tilted a little upwards in the sky and he had no wit whatsoever. I you recognize yourself in some of these you better change yourself, quickly.